Ukuba nengane akulula, kodwa ukuba namawele (noma izingane ezingaphezulu!) Kungaba yinselele. Abazali bamawele, abathathu noma ngaphezulu bazodinga usizo nazo zonke izeluleko ezingaba khona kuzo zonke izigaba zezingane zabo, kusukela ekuzalweni kuya ebusheni. Ukukhulisa ingane eyodwa kuyakhathaza, kodwa ukukhulisa ingane engaphezu kweyodwa kukhathele kabili. Ngakho-ke, Kubalulekile ukuthi unake konke esizokutshela khona ngezansi. Ungalahlekelwa yimininingwane ngoba ingakusiza kakhulu!
Unyaka wokuqala wamawele
Ukubhekana nezingane ezimbili noma ngaphezulu ngesinye sezigaba ezinzima kakhulu zokuzalwa okuningi kwabazali. Ukunakekela ingane ethembele ngokuphelele kumuntu omdala kunzima kepha uma kunezimbili, izidingo ziyanda kanye nengcindezi. Ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zabancane kudinga umzamo oqhubekayo ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Zombili izingane zidinga izidingo ezifanayo eziyisisekelo: ukudla, uthando, inhlanzeko… futhi akutholakali njalo ukushintshana ngomunye umuntu ukuze akwazi ukunakekela izingane. Uma uwedwa nezingane ezimbili ezifuna ngenkani, lapho-ke uzobona ukuthi ukucindezeleka nezinzwa kuza kanjani empilweni yakho, kepha into engcono kakhulu ongayenza hlala uzolile ngoba ukukhathazeka ngeke kukusize uzuze noma yini enhle.
Kuyadingeka ukwamukela ukuthi unyaka wokuqala wezingane uzoba nezinxushunxushu nokukhathala okuphelele kubazali… kuzoba nokulala okuncane kakhulu futhi kuzoba namanabukeni angcolile yonke indawo. Kepha ungazijabulela nezinsana zakho kanye nokubeletha okuhle okuphindwe kabili (noma okuphindwe kathathu!).
Into yokuqala okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi kufanele ube nazo zonke izinto ezidingekayo ozozidinga ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila: okokugqoka, amanabukeni, izinto zenhlanzeko, ukudla ... konke kuphindwe kabili! Kufanele futhi ube nodokotela wezingane omuhle ozinakekelayo noma kunini lapho uzidinga khona.
Imizila izobaluleka nsuku zonke selokhu izingane zifika emhlabeni. Izingane zidinga imikhuba ukuze zikwazi ukulindela ukuthi kuzokwenzekani nokuthi kuzokwenzekani ngomzuzu ngamunye, into ezozinikeza ukuphepha nokududuzwa ngokomoya. Hlala wazi ukuthi uzokuzwa ukukhala okuningi, uzoshintsha amanabukeni amaningi futhi uzoshintsha izingubo zawo izikhathi eziyizinkulungwane ... Kepha amahora okulala azobe eyindlala ... Yize kuzoba lula ukwedlula indlela ocabanga ngayo ngemuva nje kokuhleleka bese uqala ukuhlangana namawele akho.
Ngemuva konyaka wokuqala
Lapho unyaka wokuqala wamawele akho usudlulile, ingxenye eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu izophela futhi konke kuzobonakala kulula kancane ngoba abancane bakho bazobe sebekhulile kancane. Kusukela onyakeni wokuqala, konke kuba lula ... kuya ngokuthi ubuka kanjani. Amawele angabayeki ukuhamba umzuzwana, agcwele amandla, ayathanda ukuhlola umhlaba wawo, axhumane futhi futhi nezwe ... Amawele ayizinyanda zenjabulo namandla amaningi futhi!
Ikhaya lakho kufanele libe yindawo ephephile yabancane bakho ngoba bazosebenzisa isikhathi esiningi bedlala ngamathoyizi abo futhi kungahle kufike isikhathi lapho ungazi nokuthi ubabeke kuphi. Ungathola izinselelo ezifana nokuluma kwezingane zakho, ukushaya, ukukhala ngasikhathi sinye noma ukuhamba ngokushesha ezinhlangothini ezihlukile ... Kuzofanele usheshe ukugwema izingozi!
Kepha akuyona yonke into enengcindezi, futhi uzoqala ukulala ngokwengeziwe futhi ube ngcono, uzoqala ukuvalelisa isigaba sezinabukeni futhi lapho ubheka izingane zakho ngeke ufune zikhule, yize kukhona konke uzofuna isikhathi sokuma! Kuzoba isikhathi esiningi esimnandi ukuchitha isikhathi nezingane zakho.
Amawele aneminyaka yobudala besikole
Iminyaka yesikole nayo izothakazelisa kakhulu… izingane sezikhulile, zizimele ngokwengeziwe futhi zihlakaniphile. Abazali kuzodingeka benze izinqumo eziyinkimbinkimbi mayelana nokuthi yisiphi isikole okufanele basikhethe, ukuthi kufanele baye ekilasini elilodwa ... Mhlawumbe kufanele ulwele amalungelo ezingane zakho nokuthi isikole singahlonipha okuthandayo.
Uzofunda nangombango wezelamani uqobo ... yize kuzoba nezinsuku lapho bengabangane abakhulu. Umndeni kungenzeka ungami okwesibili ngosuku phakathi kwamakilasi aphuma esikoleni, ezemidlalo, umsebenzi wesikole, ubungane… Ungazibuza ukuthi uchitha isikhathi esanele yini namawele akho, ikakhulukazi ngasikhathi sinye. Ngezinsuku zokuzalwa izingane zakho zizokhula futhi zizobizwa ngobunikazi bazo ... Futhi ngeke uzichazele ukuthi isikhathi sihamba ngokushesha okungaka! Intsha izobe ingqongqoza emnyango.
Izinkinga ezivamile emndenini
Ukuba namawele noma ngaphezulu kuzodala izinselelo zomndeni bonke abazali bezingane ezingaphezu kweyodwa okuzodingeka babhekane nazo ngasikhathi sinye, kusukela ekuhlelweni kwezinto kuya ekuxazululeni izinkinga ezingokomzwelo ngasikhathi sinye ... abazali kwesinye isikhathi badinga ukuholwa ngobungcweti ukuze bakwazi ukubhekana nalolu hlobo yesimo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuba nezingane ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ngasikhathi sinye kungadala ukungezwani phakathi kwabazali nobudlelwano buhlupheke, ngenxa yalesi sizathu kubalulekile ukunakekela umshado. Ukufuna usizo kwabanye lapho uludinga futhi ufuna ukuba nesikhathi sezithandani kubalulekile. Kwesinye isikhathi ukwesekwa kogogo nomkhulu kungumqondo omuhle, ikakhulukazi uma bethanda futhi benamandla anele ukuthi bakwazi ukubhekana namawele noma abazukulu abaningi ngasikhathi sinye.
Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuthi kube nenhlangano eningi ekhaya. Ukuphathwa kwezomnotho, ukuhleleka ekhaya, izikhathi zomndeni, okuhlangenwe nakho komndeni, ukuhlanzwa ekhaya ... konke kubalulekile ukuthi ihleleke kahle, ngenkathi iguquguquka ezintweni ezingahambi kahle noma ezingahambi njengokuhlela komuntu.
Amawele
Ubuhlobo obuphakathi kwamawele amawele buyamangalisa, bukhethekile futhi butholwa kuphela ngabantu abanewele noma iwele. Kwesinye isikhathi kujwayelekile ukuthi kube namaqhinga athile okuhlukanisa amawele afanayo nokuthi angawafundisa nini ukuziphatha kwabo akuyona into elindelekile kubo.
Amawele angaba nobudlelwano obukhulu kepha kuyadingeka futhi ukusebenza ngamakhono ezenhlalo nawokomzwelo ekhaya ukuvimbela ukungqubuzana okuncane ukuthi kungaphenduki kube yinto eshubile noma enzima ukuphatha.