Siyavumelana nawe Ukukhuluma namadodana namadodakazi akho mayelana nokuvimbela inzalo akulula, kepha kubalulekile. Izinga eliphezulu lokukhulelwa okungafuneki kwenzeka ngesikhathi sobusha, emibhangqwaneni engaphansi kweminyaka eyi-17.
Kubalulekile ubudlelwano obukhona phakathi kwabazali nezingane futhi imfundo ukuthi bakutholile. Njengakwezinye izikhathi, sikunikeza okunye imihlahlandlela namathiphu wokuthi ungakhuluma kanjani nesihloko, kepha ngumndeni ngamunye nomzali ngamunye okufanele enze izinqumo.
Izindlela zokukhuluma ngokuvimbela inzalo nentsha
Isihluthulelo sanoma yikuphi ukuxhumana yilesi ukuhloniphana, lapho kuvela ukuthembana. Abazali kufanele babekezele, bahloniphe ubumfihlo bentsha, futhi bazinike isikhathi sokuhlola imizwa yengane ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
Kuhle, abazali bakhe indawo ephephile lapho indodana noma indodakazi izizwa ikhululekile ukukhuluma ngalesi sihloko. Uma ukufihlwa kwezocansi kuye kwagwenywa, akumele kube yinto ekhulunywayo, izingane zizobuza ngokuzithemba kubantu abadala, okuyibo, abazali bazo, ukuthi zifune izeluleko nosizo.
Enye imininingwane okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi ukukhuluma nge fait accompli kungasabisa okwabafana nokubuyela emuva. Kuyafaneleka kakhulu ukubuza ukuthi "Uya ocansini kangaki?" kune "Uyaya ocansini?" Ngokukhetha kokuqala siyabona ukuthi uya ocansini noma uyasebenza futhi ngakho-ke ungasiphendula noma usitshele ukuthi awunabo ubudlelwano. Ngokusebenzisa umbuzo wokuqala kulula ukuthi umfana noma intombazane bavule ingxoxo. Esehlakalweni sesibili kubukeka sengathi simcela ukuba avume icala futhi sakhe udonga phakathi kukababa nendodana.
Intsha kanye ne-reverse
Singakusho lokho yonke intsha yazi ngokulawulwa kokubeletha, nokho bazifaka engozini ngegiya elihlehla emuva.
Sona kanye isimo sengqondo sobusha siyaba abantu abasha bafuna ukuhlala okwamanje futhi ungakhathazeki ngemiphumela yezenzo zakho.
Kungumsebenzi wabazali ukukhuluma nabo futhi, zibashukumise ukuthi basebenzise amathuluzi, izinto zokuvimbela inzalo, ngaphambi kokufinyelela ezimeni ezingenakulungiseka ezithathelanayo zezifo, izifo noma ukukhulelwa okungafuneki.
Ukukhetha indlela yokuvimbela inzalo esinye sezinqumo zokuqala ezenziwa ngumfana noma intombazane, kungaba ngazodwana noma ngokuvumelana nabashadikazi. Izindlela zokuvimbela inzalo ziyashintsha kuye ngesikhathi sempilo nohlobo lobudlelwano olugcinwayo. Kubudlelwano bezikhathi ezithile, kunconywa amakhondomu; ebudlelwaneni obuzinzile, iningi likhetha ukwelashwa kwamahomoni, noma kungamabala noma amaphilisi.
Kuyathakazelisa ukugcizelela ukuthi ukukhuluma ngocansi oluphephile nendodana yakho akuhlangene nokuzikhethela kwakhe ngokocansi, indlela yakhe noma isinqumo sakhe ngemikhuba yezocansi anayo, kodwa ngokulangazelela ukuvikelwa njengabazali maqondana nempilo yakho. Msize aqonde ukuthi iyi- isimo esiyingozi, ukuthi kukhona amathuluzi okugwema ubungozi, ukujabulela isipiliyoni. Umeluleke ngokuthi asebenzise amakhondomu uma eya ocansini, noma ngabe usebenzisa enye indlela yokuvimbela inzalo.
Ezinye izindlela zokuvimbela inzalo
Uma nizoba nengxoxo mayelana nezindlela zokuvikela ukukhulelwa nendodana noma indodakazi yakho, kulula ukuthi wazi i amathuba anikezwa ngumphakathi wakho ozimele empilweni yomphakathi noma yangasese. Ngaphandle kwamakhondomu abesilisa, atholakala ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, imibala, nokunambitheka, kukhona namakhondomu abesifazane ezithengwa ngaphandle kwemithi kadokotela.
I-Los izindlela zokuvikela ukukhulelwa eSpain angamadivayisi we-intrauterine, izimila zokuvimbela inzalo, amaphilisi, isichibi sokuvimbela inzalo, iringi yowesifazane kanye nomjovo wokuvimbela inzalo. Zonke zinconywa ukuthi zithengwe ngomuthi kadokotela, kepha zingathengwa futhi ngaphandle kwazo.
Ngokuvamile lezi izindlela ezivimbela ukukhulelwa, ngakho-ke yi- owesifazane osemusha okufanele uyithathe, welulekwe udokotela noma indlela yezokwelapha oyikhethayo. Futhi ngalokhu imininingwane yezinzuzo nezingozi ibalulekile. Lezi zindlela zokuvikela ukukhulelwa azihlinzeki ngokuvikelwa ezifweni ezithathelwana ngocansi.