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Ubusha obudlulile kulapho sikhuluma ngeminyaka ephakathi kweminyaka eyi-15 kuye kwengu-18. Ukuhlubuka okuningi esikoleni samabanga aphezulu kwenzeka ngenxa yokubambezeleka kobusha, osemusha uvukela ngokumangalisayo ekugcineni ukuzikhulula ekuthembekeni kwengane ekuvunyelweni ngabazali ngokuba "umfana omuhle njalo".
Isibonelo, izingane kuphela ezijwayele ukuhamba kancane ukwehlukanisa nabazali ngenxa yokunamathela okuqinile nokwandiswa ezinhlangothini zombili. Ekugcineni, esikoleni samabanga aphakeme, laba bantu abasha, abaneziqu zokuthola inkululeko enkulu esondela, bangadinga ukuqala ukuhlubuka sekwedlule isikhathi ukuthola ukwahlukana, ukwahlukanisa nokuzimela badinga ukufeza lesi sinyathelo esilandelayo esibucayi.
Lokhu kubuhlungu futhi kuyethusa kubazali. Kule minyaka esekhulile, ukuzifaka engcupheni kungaba yingozi kakhulu, ngenkathi ulahlekelwe ukulahlekelwa ukusondela futhi ukuhambisana nendodana noma indodakazi yakho obukujabulele iminyaka eminingi kangaka.
Okudingeka ukuthi abazali bakukhumbule ngalesi sikhathi ukuthi ingane isaba futhi isezinhlungwini njengabo. Ngakho-ke, umsebenzi wakho ukuvumela inkululeko enkulu ngenkathi ulindele umthwalo wemfanelo ofanayo, ukuhlala uzwela ngesikhathi sokungezwani, futhi unikeze umhlahlandlela ozolile futhi ocacile kunoma yiziphi izingozi ezinkulu ezingase zivele.
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bangazibeki “eqenjini eliphikisayo” lezingane zabo. Kumele bazizwe ukuthi basendleleni efanayo nokuthi bayohlala besohlangothini lwabo ukubaqondisa kukho konke abakudingayo. Ngale ndlela, intsha iyozizwa ithandwa futhi ihlonishwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngakho-ke, abazali bazokwazi ukunakekela isibopho abanaso nezingane zabo yize benesifiso esikhulu sokuzimela empilweni. Ukunakekela ubudlelwano kulesi sigaba kubalulekile ukuze impilo yezingane iqhubeke kahle.