Sisebenzise iqiniso lokuthi u-Ephreli useqalile, inyanga enikezelwe ezincwadini (Usuku Lwezincwadi Zabantwana, Usuku Lwezincwadi, imibukiso ehlukahlukene, ...), izinsuku ezimbalwa besinikeza ukuhlobana kwezihloko ezihlobene nokufunda, futhi okugxile emndenini, futhi ebuntwaneni. Ithuba lokuthi lokho kusenze sathola umkhankaso omusha walolu hlelo #soyquiendecide, kukhuthazwe ngu-Alba Alonso Feijoo. Kulesi senzakalo, lesi sinyathelo sigxile "ekuvuseleleni" izincwadi ezibhekiswe emantombazaneni, into ebikwa kuRealkiddys, ibhulogi ehlukile yephrojekthi yezemfundo u-Alonso oyi-CEO yayo.
Iqiniso liwukuthi kusobala kakhulu ukuthi amantombazane awazidingi izindaba nezinkondlo ezinamaphinki, kubukeka sengathi umkhakha wemikhiqizo yezingane usidonsa umlenze, kodwa ngiyaqhubeka nokwethula kwami. U-Alba ungudokotela we-English philology, uthisha wesikole somphakathi futhi ungumama wezingane ezi-2; Kuyamangaza, kepha usenesikhathi sokubhala izincwadi zezingane, futhi usanda kushicilela i- "Martin is the best". Lowo okwaxoxwa naye uzibonakalisa ethandana nobuntwana kanye nomfundi ongakhathali; Futhi sengathi lokho bekunganele, uhlala esebenzisana nabezindaba abahlukahlukene bolwazi.
I-Realkiddys iyindlela ye- ukulwa nemibono eyeqisayo yezobulili nokufuna ukusebenzisana. Ngicabanga ukuthi uzoyithokozela le ngxoxo, kodwa sanelisekile ukuthi uyazi ngendlela abathengisa ngayo ukuhlukaniswa kobulili kanye namathoyizi, imvunulo noma izincwadi esizithengela amadodakazi ethu namadodana ethu; futhi lokho kubaphuca inkululeko, kepha futhi kungabeka izindima abazidlalayo.
Madres Hoy: Ngemuva kwephrojekthi oyithuthukisayo kunentshisekelo yokuthi amantombazane nabafana Bangaba ngokukhululeka, futhi ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa. Lokho kusho ukuthi omunye nomunye unokunambitheka nezimpawu ezihlukile, futhi hhayi ukuthi kulungiswa yi-biology yabo. Ngabe unawo umqondo lapho imikhiqizo yezokuzijabulisa eyayiqondiswe emantombazaneni iqala ukuba "nomsoco"?
U-Alba Alonso: I-Rosification iye yaba nabalandeli abahlukene kuwo wonke umlando. Ngaphambi kwekhulu lama-XNUMX, uma sibheka izithombe zemindeni yasebukhosini, sizobona ukuthi amakhosi nezikhulu bavela ngokubomvu noma ngophinki. Futhi kungenxa yokuthi obomvu kwakuwudayi obiza kakhulu, kanye nokufanekisela amandla, amandla, namandla.
Uma sihamba emashumini ambalwa eminyaka emlandweni, ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20, sizobona ukuthi abafana namantombazane babegqoka ezimhlophe, hhayi ngisho nokubomvana noma okuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, njengoba isazi-mlando uJo Paoletti sisitshela encwadini yakhe ethi “Pink and Blue: Ukutshela Abafana Ezintombini ZaseMelika ”. I-White yasetshenziselwa ukusebenza kwayo ukufakwa ku-bleach, futhi ngaleyo ndlela isuse amabala ajwayelekile angathandeki ezinsana. UPaoletti usitshela ukuthi kusukela ngawo-XNUMX kwaqala kanjani ukwehluka okuthile emhlabeni opinki / oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukene, kepha kuya ngesimo esasikuso, upinki angavela abhalwe ngokusobala ngabafana noma amantombazane. EYurophu kwenzeka into efanayo, ngoba eFrance izindlu zezintandane zazigqokisa abafana ngombala oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka namantombazane afake o-pink, kepha eJalimane, nokho, kwenziwa ngenye indlela, njengoba uPaoletti echaza..
Ngenkathi inkathi yama-60- 70s kwakuwumhlaba ogcwele umbala nokungathathi hlangothi, ama-80s aletha umhlaba obomvana / oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ufuna ukuthengiswa okwandisiwe, kanti umhlaba wama-90 noweDisney wenza okunye. Ikhulu lama-XNUMX likubonile ukuqhuma okukhulu kwalomhlaba ombaxambili, okungagcinanga nje ngokuhluleka ukuthola ibhuleki, kepha okuqhubeka “ku-crescendo” namuhla..
Okwamanje sisebenza ezinkolelweni ezinkulu ezihlasela imibhalo yezingane
MH:Kwenzeka kanjani #soyquiendecide? Ngicabanga ukuthi lolu "uhlelo" lwesithathu lomkhankaso, ulinganisela kanjani ukwamukelwa kwaleyangaphambilini?
I-AA: Isinyathelo se- # soyquiendecide siyingxenye yomkhankaso we- "Teaching to Be", umbutho wobuntwana obubekezelela kakhudlwana, obulinganayo nobunobulungiswa. Senza lo mkhankaso ngokubambisana noMadresfera, futhi sikuthokozile kakhulu ukwamukelwa enakho. Isenzo sokuqala senzeka ngoKhisimusi owedlule sigxeka ubulili obufihliwe kumathoyizi, saqhubeka emicimbini yomkhosi ekhombisa ubulwane obethuliswa ezinye izingubo zabantwana, futhi njengamanje sisebenza ezinkolelweni ezinkulu ezihlasela imibhalo yezingane. Kuyindlela ecacile nelula yokuqwashisa umphakathi, ikakhulukazi abazali, ngalokho okushiwo umhlaba obomvana / oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka kanye nemiphumela yawo yangomuso.
MH: Abenzi bafuna "ukufaka imali" njengoba usho, abathengi bayathathwa; kwesinye isikhathi angazi noma ukukhangisa kudala izidingo noma kuyaziphendula. Ngabe imikhiqizo ivame ukusabela kanjani kwingcindezi yokwamukela inqubomgomo elinganayo?
I-AA: Namuhla sekuvele kunemikhiqizo ehlukene eqala ukubamba iqhaza kulolu hambo lokuhlonipha okuthandwa ngabantwana kungakhathalekile ubulili babo. Kepha ngeshwa, siyaqinisekisa ukuthi ezimweni eziningi zalezi kumane nje kuyisu lokuhweba, ngoba bakwenza kahle ngoKhisimusi bese bengasebenzisi umbono ofanayo kuma-carnival, ngokwesibonelo. Noma ngabe isu noma cha, ushintsho olukhulu luyadingeka ngemikhiqizo. Umphakathi uqala ukuyifuna futhi sethemba ukuthi abanye abaningi "bazogxumela phezulu" bese belahla imikhuba ethile engenangqondo.
MH: Manje ukhuluma nge- "rosification" yezindaba "zamantombazane", akusho ukuthi ngiyavumelana nawe ukuthi amantombazane awadingi ukutshelwa ukuthi yini okumele ayifunde, nokuthi angavula izincwadi zokuzithokozisa noma ezenzelwa zona. Ngiyazi ngephrojekthi efana nale oyithuthukisayo (Let Toys be Toys in the UK), uyazi ukuthi akhona kwamanye amazwe?
I-AA: ILettoysbetoys yinhlangano emnandi, futhi bafeza izinto ezinhle ngokubika kwabo. Ukusuka e-Australia kukhona ne-PlayUnlimited enemikhankaso emibili kaKhisimusi kuze kube manje ene- “NoGenderDecember”. ESpain la maholidi kaKhisimusi adlule kwakungomasipala abaningana ababekhuthazwa ukuba benze imikhankaso yokulwa nobulili ngamathoyizi. Kepha lokhu kuyinto okufanele isetshenzwe unyaka wonke, hhayi kuphela ezweni lamathoyizi, ngoba kunezindawo eziningi okufanele zithuthukiswe kulokhu..
Kunezincwadi ezihlukanisa ngqo ngocansi ngokubhalwa emakhethini azo njenge "yamantombazane" noma "eyabafana"
MH: Manje yinyanga enhle yokuthi "sifinyelele kukho" futhi sivumele izingane zikhululeke ekukhetheni kwazo kokufunda (Usuku Lwezincwadi Lwezingane noSuku Lwezincwadi). Kungakho ngidinga usizo lwakho: sitshele ukuthi kungakuthinta kanjani ukukhula komfana noma kwentombazane esibatshela ukuthi ukufundwa kwabo bekuhlukaniswe phambilini.
I-AA: Lezi zindaba ziyithuluzi elikhanga kakhulu labancane abasendlini. Ngaphezu kwemiyalezo ebhaliwe, kweminingi yale misebenzi yezingane sinemifanekiso, namandla wobumbano / wesithombe ombaxambili ayamangalisa. Uma uhlala ubona umama endabeni enza imisebenzi yasendlini, nomfana enza ezemidlalo, ngenkathi intombazane ihleli ithule idlala onodoli, imiyalezo etholwa yilo mfana noma le ntombazane miningi futhi icace bha. Njengokungathi lokho bekunganele, kunezincwadi ezihlukanisa ngqo ubulili njengoba zibhalwe emakhavini azo ukuthi "zamantombazane" noma "zabafana.".
Kulawo amantombazane sizothola umhlaba obomvana wamakhosazana, amakhekhe, izimvemvane nezimbali, futhi kulezo zezingane kuzoba nokuningi ukwenza, ezemidlalo, isayensi, izilwane eziyingozi, amaqhawe ... Kunzima entombazaneni sifundisa ukuthi Kufanele ube ngamavili futhi ube mnandi, ugcine usungusomabhizinisi oholayo. Futhi enganeni engaba uthisha, siyitshela ukuthi leli zwe alanele kuye..
MH:Yini edingekayo kulolu hlobo lwezinyathelo zokuthinta umphakathi? Futhi ngicela usitshele: yini engenziwa omama nobaba (ngaphandle kokungathengi nge-pink noma ngombala oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka) lapho le mboni igxambukela ezimpilweni zabafana bethu namantombazane ethu?
I-AA: Kunezinto eziningi esingazenza. Ukungayitholi imikhiqizo ehlukanisa ubulili yiyona engaba nomthelela omkhulu, kepha ukwaba lo myalezo phakathi kwezihlobo zethu nakho kungafinyelela intuthuko enkulu. Uma kuwusuku lokuzalwa lwentombazane yakho futhi uhlela iphathi, makwazeke ukuthi awufuni konke okubomvana noma konke "kwesifazane". Uma uya ngosuku lokuzalwa lomngane wendodakazi yakho, ungangezi elinye iqhawe eqoqweni lakhe, bese uzama ukuthola okuthile okungathathi hlangothi. Futhi uma bekhulile, impela ukuthanda kwabo kuyahlonishwa, kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke kunokuhlukahluka. Uma ungakaze unikeze indodana yakho unodoli, noma imoto uyinike indodakazi yakho, wazi kanjani ukuthi ngeke bayithande?
Futhi kunjalo! Ngimema omama nomama ukuthi bajoyine #soyquiendecide futhi babelane ngemilayezo, ama-tweets, nokuthunyelwe okusola leli zwe lezinkolelo ezinhlobonhlobo kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokuxhumana nabantu ezikhawulela ebuntwaneni bethu kuphela.
Ezikoleni sifuna ukuqeqeshwa okwengeziwe futhi okungcono kothisha maqondana nalokhu, nangokucela, Ngokufanelekile, uhulumeni uzobandakanyeka emithethweni engavumeli izenzo ezithile, izikhangiso noma izinhlelo zethelevishini lapho ukwehlukaniswa ngokocansi, nokuqhubeka ngokobulili kuvele ngaphezu kokusobala.
Kuze kube manje ingxoxo no-Alba Alonso, ongumsabalalisi osebenza ngonembeza futhi ongakhathali; Kumele ngikubonge ngokubambisana kwakho. Iminikelo yakho ibe wusizo olukhulu kimi, futhi ngiyethemba ikusiza ukuthi uqonde kancane ukuthi izinkolelo-ze ziwathinta kanjani amadodana namadodakazi ethu.
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