Ukuzithiba nokwenza kahle ukubekezelela okuphansi kokukhungatheka kuyinto okufanele ifundwe ebuntwaneni obuphansi nangaphansi kokuholwa ngabazali.. Ingane engazange ikusebenzele ukubekezelela okuphansi kokukhathazeka eminyakeni yokuqala yempilo yayo kungenzeka ukuthi ibe nokuthukuthela okuningi ezophenduka intukuthelo nolaka njengoba ikhula. Ngeke uyihloniphe imingcele futhi uzozwa ukuthi wonke umuntu umelene nawe noma ukuthi uyahlaselwa lapho izifiso zakho nezinhloso zakho zingeneliseki ngokushesha. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi abazali basebenze ekhaya ukukhuthaza ukuzithiba ezinganeni.
Ukungafisi kuvamile ezinganeni ezincane futhi kungaholela ezinkingeni nezinye izingane noma ekhaya nomndeni. Ngabe kukhona okungahambi kahle ngezingane ukuthi azikwazi ukuzibamba? Cha akunjalo. SKufanele bafunde kuphela ukuthi ukulawula kukuye uqobo futhi kulokho okwenziwayo, akuyona into omunye umuntu okufanele akwenzele yona.
Abazali abaningi bathambekele ekucabangeni ukuthi izingane sezithuthuke kakhulu kunalokho eziyikho ngoba bayakhuluma futhi baqondakala kahle. Kepha iqiniso ukuthi ubuchopho bezingane abukakhuli ngokuphelele. Ukufunda ngokuzithiba kuyadingeka futhi kungenziwa kuphela ngokuzitholela nokuziphindaphinda hhayi ngokujezisa noma ngokuthukuthela. Kwenzeka kancane ngesikhathi sobuntwana. Kodwa ukuzithiba kungakhuthazwa kanjani ezinganeni?
Isisekelo ukwethembana
Abazali abasabela ezidingweni zezingane bakwenza ngokuzethemba. Lapho ingane ilambile ivuke ikhala, abazali bayayithatha bayifunze ... ingane ifunda ukuthi ingabethemba abazali bayo ngoba bazoyondla. Njalo lapho ubaba ethulisa ingane yakhe, ubuchopho bakhe buqinisa izinzwa nezindlela zokudambisa ukukhathazeka nokulawula imizwa, okuthile okuzokusiza ufunde ukuzola. Kuyisisekelo sokuzithiba.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ingane izothemba ukuthi izokwazi ukudla ngesikhathi nokuthi abazali bayo bayinikeze ukuphepha nenduduzo. Ngakho-ke, uzokwazi ukwehlisa ukubekezela kwakho nokukhathazeka nganoma yiziphi izidingo zakho ngoba uyazi ukuthi kungekudala noma kamuva, zingabhekelwa. Abazali basiza izingane zabo ukuthi zifinyelele kulesi sigaba ngokuthulisa ukukhathazeka kwabo nokukhuthaza lowo muzwa wokuphepha nokwamukelwa..
Kudingeka isibonelo esihle
Okufundisa ngempela izingane ukulawula imizwa yazo nokuzithiba okuhle ngokungangabazeki kuyisibonelo sabazali bazo. Uma abazali bengazi ukuthi bangayilawula kanjani imizwa yabo futhi basabele ngentukuthelo noma bathathe ukuziphatha okuyinselele kwengane yabo uqobo ... ingane ithola umyalezo ocacile wokuthi impilo igcwele izimo eziphuthumayo nezicindezela kakhulu. Lokhu kuphazamisa kakhulu ukufunda kwengane futhi ngeke ikwazi ukukhuthaza ukwehlisa izinkathazo zayo nokungavikeleki. Into ebaluleke kakhulu abazali abangayenza ukusiza ingane yabo ifunde ukuzithiba ukulawula imizwa yayo ukuze ikwazi ukuhlala izolile futhi izwelana nengane yayo.
Ukuzithiba kungenzeka ngenxa yokuthuthuka kobuchopho
Izingane ezincane azinawo amandla okumelana nokunxenxa lapho zifuna ukwenza okuthile, kepha njengoba zikhula zizokwazi ukuzenza. Umehluko use-prefrontal cortex ekhula kusukela eminyakeni emibili kuya kwengama-25. Ngakho-ke i-prefrontal cortex ingaqiniswa kanjani ukuze izingane ezincane zikwazi ukuzithiba? Impendulo ilula: ngokuzijwayeza nobudlelwano obuhle nabazali bakho.
Zijwayeze, uzijwayeze futhi uzijwayeze
Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi wake wezwa ukuthi "Ukuzijwayeza kwenza kuphelele" futhi kunjalo. Njalo lapho ingane ikwazi ukudela okuthile ukuze ifune okwengeziwe, izobe yakha izindlela ze-neural ku-cortex yayo yangaphambili ehambisana nokuzikhuza. Lapho ingane izizwa iphoqelekile ukuthi inikele ngokuthile, lokhu akukhona ukuzikhuza. Futhi, uma ingane iyeka okuthile ekufunayo kepha ingenalo ithuba lokuzithiba, ngeke kuphumelele futhi.. Ingane ekwazi ukuzithiba iyoba yiyo enomgomo. (isibonelo ukugunyazwa ngumama wakho) lokho kubaluleke ngaphezu kwesifiso esisheshayo (i-bauble uma ingahambelani).
Setha imingcele yokuqonda
Njalo lapho ubeka umkhawulo owamukelwa yingane, lapho-ke basebenzisa ukuzithiba. Kuyacaca ukuthi izingane zikhetha ukuqhubeka nokudlala, kepha yena uyazi ukuthi uma eqhubeka nokudlala kunemiphumela engahle ihlangane nayo. Noma uma esegumbini lokugezela edlala, akudingekile ukuthi uthukuthele uma echaphaza konke, udinga ukuxhumana nawe ngokomzwelo ukuze wazi ukuthi akulungile nokuthi umqondise ekuziphatheni kwakhe okufanele kube isikhathi sokugeza.
Isijeziso asikhuthazi ukuzikhuza noma ukuzithiba ngoba ingane ngeke ibe nethuba lokukhetha ukuyeka ukwenza ebikwenza: uma iphoqelelwa, izobe ingafundi. Hlala wazi ukuthi ukuyekelela (okungolunye uhlangothi lwemali) akukhuthazi ukuzithiba noma ukuzithiba ezinganeni, ngoba ingane ngeke isizwe isidingo sokuyeka. Kubalulekile ukubeka imingcele ngokuqonda, ukuze izingane zikwamukele futhi ngaleyo ndlela zihlakulele ukuzithiba okuhle.
Kuyinqubo ehamba kancane, kepha uma uhlala njalo kuyo ungathola imiphumela emihle. Ingane yakho ifuna ukuzwa ukulawula emhlabeni wayo futhi uma uyivumela ukuthi ikwazi ukufinyelela lokho kulawula ngaphakathi kwezinkambiso noma imikhawulo oyimisile ekhaya, khona-ke iyozizwa inesifiso esikhulu sokukwazi ukuzilawula futhi ikwazi ube nokuziphatha okungadingi ulaka, intukuthelo noma imikhuba emibi. Khumbula kepha, isibonelo sakho siyikho konke.