Kuyinsakavukela ukuthi lapho kubonakala owesifazane okhulelwe, isisu sakhe sithintwe ngokushesha ukubona ukuthi ukukhahlela kwengane kuyezwakala yini noma ukumane kubhekwe ukuthi isisu sakhe sinzima noma cha. Empeleni akufanele usithinte isisu sowesifazane okhulelwe ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe ngesizathu esisobala: akuhloniphi. Abantu abazungeze owesifazane okhulelwe kufanele bahambisane naye kulesi sigaba, ukushiya nokuhlonipha isikhala somzimba esidingekayo ukuze uzizwe umuhle.
Kungenzeka kube nabesifazane abangenandaba nokuthintwa kwesisu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kodwa futhi kungaba khona nabanye besifazane abazizwa behlaselwe ngokuphelele uma lokhu kwenzeka kubo. Uma ufuna ukuthinta isisu sowesifazane okhulelwe, kuzofanela ulinde yena ukuthi akumeme ukuthi ukwenze., noma okungenani akunikeze imvume.
Imayelana nokuhlonipha omunye umuntu, inhlonipho efanayo naleyo onayo ngomunye umuntu. Ukuthi owesifazane ukhulelwe akuvumeli ukuthi uthinte isisu sakhe ngenxa nje yokuthi ujabulile ngokuthi umzimba wowesifazane uyakwazi ukugcina impilo ngaphakathi. Akukuniki ilungelo lokuthinta umzimba okungewona owakho ngaphandle kwemvume.
Kukhona abesifazane abangakuthandi ukuthintana nabanye abantu ngokomzimba futhi bangazizwa benodlame olukhulu uma bethintwa ngaphandle kwemvume yabo. Kukhona nabantu okuthi, uma bengama-extroverts, bathinte abanye lapho bekhuluma cishe benganakile, kepha noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi owesifazane okhulelwe ngaphambi kokubuza ukuthi ungasithinta yini isisu sakhe.
Kusukela manje kuqhubeke, lapho ubona owesifazane okhulelwe, ungacabangi ukuthi isisu sakhe sitholakala kuwo wonke umuntu ongathintwa, ngoba ngumzimba wakhe futhi uyanquma.