Sivame ukuhlobanisa ukuvakashelwa kudokotela wezifo zabesifazane njengento ethile emuva kwesikhathi, lapho izikhathi eziningi zingathathwa ngomcabango wokuthi zizohamba zodwa lapho sezikhulile. Njengoba nje siya kwabanye odokotela ukuyohlola (odokotela bamazinyo, odokotela bamehlo ...) kuyadingeka ukuthi ube nokuhlolwa kwabesifazane ngaphandle kokulinda ukuthi ube seminyakeni esemthethweni. Namuhla sizokhuluma ngokuthi kungakuhle yini ukuyisa indodakazi yakho kudokotela wezifo zabesifazane ukuyohlolwa.
Ngabe ukufika kwenkathi isikhathi sokuya kudokotela wabesifazane?
Abanye omama ngokufika kwamadodakazi abo esikhathini, basheshisa ukuvakashela kudokotela wezifo zabesifazane. Kwesinye isikhathi kuba kuwe uchwepheshe uchaza izinguquko ezenzekayo emzimbeni wakho bese uphendula yonke imibuzo yakho. Ungakhuluma naye ukuze uphendule yonke imibuzo yakhe (ukuthi uzoba nayo), futhi uma kwenzeka enamahloni okukhuluma ngayo nawe, ungamyisa kudokotela wezifo zabesifazane akuchaze ngomjikelezo wokuya esikhathini, inhlanzeko, ukuvikelwa ebudlelwaneni, izinguquko emzimbeni wakhe ... isikhathi esihle sokuqala ukuvakashelwa kwabesifazane besifazane ukuthola ukuhlolwa, yize abanye omama bekubheka kusenesikhathi.
Izingane nentsha ngokuvamile izwa ukwenqatshwa okuthile ngodokotela, ngakho-ke kuyalulekwa chaza ukuthi iqukethe ini. Musa ukumethusa ngokuhlolwa okwenziwayo (abanye besifazane abajabuli ngokuqoqwa kwesampula noma nge-ultrasound yabesifazane, kanti abanye abakwenzi lokho) ungahambi ngokwesaba. Ngisho nokubonisana kokuqala akuhlolisisi (ikakhulukazi uma kungazange kube nocansi). Imibuzo iyabuzwa, iyalinganiswa futhi ikalwe, kuhlolwe amabele, nokunye okunye.
Mtshele ukuthi uchwepheshe, lokho bangamethemba nokuthi lokho akutshela kona kuyimfihlo. Kusisiza ukuthi singagcini ngokubona izifo ezingaba khona, kodwa futhi kuchaza nokuthi umzimba wethu usebenza kanjani nokuthi ungayithuthukisa kanjani impilo yethu. Ungahamba nayo uye kwesinye sezibuyekezo zakho ukuze ithole ukuzethemba. Kusukela eminyakeni engu-16 bangangena bodwa uma bethanda, ukuze ubukhona bomama babo bungavimbeli izimpendulo zabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadodakazi awathandi ukuba nodokotela wezifo zabesifazane ofanayo nonina ngokwesaba ukutshelwa lokho okuvezwe ngokubonisana. Kungcono ukuthola omunye udokotela.
Kunini lapho kudingeka khona ukwenza ukuhambela kokuqala kwabesifazane?
Ayikho iminyaka ebekiwe. Into enconyiwe (uma ingathathwanga ngokufika komthetho) kuzoba kusuka qala ngobulili bokuqala. Yisihloko esibucayi ukukhuluma ngaso nezingane zethu, ngoba banqena ukukhuluma nathi ngaso. Kepha uma sisola ukuthi sebeqalile noma ukuthi bacabanga ukuya ocansini, lesi yisikhathi esifanele. Futhi uma kunenkinga endaweni epholile noma yebele, noma ebuhlungu.
Izazi zabesifazane ukweluleka ngezindlela ezahlukene zokuvimbela inzalo kwenzenjani kwenzenjani izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi kukhona nokuthi ungazivikela kanjani. Uzobuza ngomlando womndeni wakho, ukugula nokusebenza kwakho, ubudala besikhathi sakho sokuqala, uma ngabe kube khona ukukhulelwa nosuku lokuya esikhathini okokugcina.
Lesi sikhathi kuzoba khona ukuhlolwa kwesitho sangasese ekubonisaneni, ukubona ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle. Kungacasula kepha kungabi buhlungu, futhi kuzophela kungekudala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, a ukubetha kwebele ukuthola ukuthi kunesigaxa yini. Uma uchazela indodakazi yakho ukuthi yini ongayilindela ekuvakasheni kwayo kokuqala, izothula futhi ikhululeke ngokwengeziwe, hhayi ngokwesaba nangokwesaba. Kujwayelekile ukuba novalo okokuqala, bese ukwesaba kuphele.
Kufanele ihlanzeke futhi ihlanzeke, futhi nezingubo ezingabambi kakhulu ukuze zisuswe kalula. Kunconywa ukuthi ubuyekeze okungenani kanye ngonyaka ukubheka ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle yini.
Ngoba khumbula ... awudingi nje ukuya kudokotela lapho kunenkinga. Ukutholwa kusenesikhathi kubaluleke kakhulu, futhi kungenziwa kuphela ngokuhlolwa njalo.