Iminyaka yokuqala yempilo yengane imaka ukukhula okusheshayo kwabancane. Ngesikhathi Ngalesi sikhathi izingane ziyabona ukuthi zingabantu abahlukaniswe nabazali bazo kanye nabanye abanakekeli. Izingane ziyakujabulela ukuthola umhlaba obazungezile futhi zithanda ukwenza konke ngokuzimela, ukuze zikwazi ukukhombisa abanye ukuthi banjani nokuthi ubuntu babo bunjani. Kepha ume kanjani lapho lokhu kuziphatha kuphenduka ulaka?
Izingane ezincane nazo zizimisele ukuziqinisa, zixhumane ngokushukuma komzimba noma ngokuthukuthela, futhi zenze izinto ngaphandle kosizo. (noma ngabe bayayidinga). Inkinga ukuthi izingane zinamakhono amancane okuzilawula. Ngokombono wokukhula, izingane ezincane azikaze zifunde ukulawula imizwa yazo noma ukuqonda ezabanye.
Yize bengenawo amakhono anele okufunda amagama amasha ngesilinganiso esisheshayo, izingane zinezifiso ezinamandla zokuxhumana futhi zivame ukusebenzisa izenzo zazo ukuxhumana nezidingo zazo. Ulimi olungakhulumi ngamazwi nokukhomba ezintweni kuyizindlela ezejwayelekile zokuxhumana ezinganeni ezincane, kepha lapho izidingo zabo zingafinyelelwanga isenzo singashintsha sibe yinto enolaka kakhulu, ukulahla izinto phansi ngisho nokushaya, ukuphusha noma ukuluma omunye.
Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi kunezingane ezingakuthinti kangako ukukhula kwazo, kukhona abanye abakuthatha njengenjwayelo ukuveza imizwa yabo enamandla kakhulu. Ngokwalesi sizathu, Kuyadingeka ukuqondisa kabusha indlela yokuziphatha kwabancane ukuze ulaka lungabi yinto ejwayelekile.
Yize isimilo 'esibi' sidalwa wukulawulwa kokungacabangi kahle, lokhu kubangela ukusabela okungokomzwelo enganeni ehlushwa yikho nakubazali ababona isenzo esibi ezinganeni zabo. Abazali kudingeka bakhumbule ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane akuyona into eyandulelayo yokuba ingane enolaka impilo yayo yonke. Kubalulekile ukulandela lezi zinyathelo ukusiza ukunquma izidingo zokuziphatha kwezingane ezincane ukuze ufundise futhi usize ingane yakho ifunde ukuxhumana ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ubudlova.
Bheka amaphethini wokuziphatha
Lapho ingane iziphatha ngendlela engemihle kuhlale kunenkinga eyisisekelo edala ukuthi isuse ulaka. Ukuziphatha okunolaka kuwukubonakaliswa kwemizwa ekhuphukela esicongweni seqhwa. Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukuthola ukuthi yini ebangela le mizwa (imvamisa ukukhungatheka noma intukuthelo). Ukuthola ukuthi kuhle ukuthi uzibuze imibuzo efana nale:
- Kukuphi lokhu kuziphatha kwenzeka kaningi?
- Lokhu kuziphatha kwenzeka nini kaningi?
- Kwenzekani ngaphambi nje kokuziphatha?
- Ngabe kwenzeka kakhulu lapho omncane ekhathele noma elambile?
- Ngabe kube nezinguquko ezinkulu?
Ukuthola amaphethini wokuziphatha kusiza abazali ukuthi bazi ukuthi kungani lokhu kuziphatha kwenzeka nokuthi yini engenziwa ukukugwema.
Sebenzisa amasu okuvikela
Kubalulekile ukuthi ubheke isimo sengane yakho lapho ufuna ukusebenzisa amasu okuvikela. Izingane ezincane azikwazi ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zazo ezingokomzwelo futhi zincike kubantu abadala ukuze bathole ukwesekwa nokuholwa kule ndlela. Izingane zidinga abazali bazo ukwakha ubuntu bazo, ukuthuthukisa ukukhula kwazo nokunakekela izidingo zazo zomzimba nezingokomzwelo.
Thola amanye amasu wokuzivikela ongawasebenzisa ezinganeni zakho ezincane bese ubavimbela ekusebenziseni ubudlova njengendlela yokuxhumana nokuveza imizwa yabo:
- Xwayisa ngezinguquko. Izingane ezincane zivame ukuba nenkinga yokushintsha noma yokushintsha. Ngalesi sizathu, izingane ezincane zisebenzisa amashejuli wokubuka, ngakho-ke zizokwazi ukuthi yini elandelayo ngokulandelayo futhi zizozizwa ziphephe kakhudlwana futhi zilawula indawo eziyizungezile.
- Qaphela lokho ingane yakho ekwazi ukukwenza. Ukuphoqa ingane engenisiwe ukuthi iye emcimbini omkhulu onomsindo omkhulu ... Akuyona inketho enhle, yinto ezophela ngokwehluleka. Cabanga ngokuthi ingane yakho injani nokuthi yini engayilungela.
- Lingisa. Izingane zidinga ukusebenzisa amandla azo ezintweni ezizithandayo (okusho, ukwenza izinto njengomndeni). Sebenzisa umdlalo ekhaya ukuprakthiza izinto, phuma uye epaki ukusebenzise… Izingane zifunda ngokudlala. Ukuprakthiza ukukhuluma ngezidingo zakho emhlabeni kuzosiza ingane yakho yazi okufanele ikwenze ezimweni ezahlukahlukene.
- Nikeza ezinye izindlela. Izingane ezincane zinokukhetha okumbalwa kakhulu ezimpilweni zazo, kubonakala sengathi abantu abadala yibona abaphethe ukubathathela isinqumo kukho konke. Ngalesi sizathu, noma nini lapho kunokwenzeka khona, unikeza izinketho ezimsizayo ukuthi asebenze ngokuzimela kwakhe futhi ezomenza azizwe ukuthi unamandla okulawula imvelo yakhe.
- Naka izidingo zabo eziyisisekelo: lala, udle, udlale. Uma ingane yakho inamaphutha kunoma iyiphi yalezi zindawo ezintathu, kungenzeka ukuthi isimilo sayo esinolaka sizovela lapho ubungakulindelanga.
Ungaphendula kanjani kulaka
Kunabazali abanomuzwa wokuthi ulaka lwezingane zabo ezincane lwehlulekile ekukhuleni kwabo, kepha akukho okuthe xaxa eqinisweni, kuphela ukuthi kubangela ukusabela okungokomzwelo. Ukusabela ngokweqile ekuziphatheni okunolaka kuzoqinisa kuphela isimilo esibi sengane. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani futhi usabele kanjani ekuhlukunyezweni kwengane yakho encane, khumbula ukuthi uyisibonelo sakhe esikhulu kunazo zonke:
- Yehlisa umoya
- Nikeza ezinye izindlela
- Nikeza iziphazamiso
- Phula umjikelezo ngokucela ingane ukuthi ikuphelezele uye kwenye indawo
- Mnikeze ukwangana kothando ukuze ezolile emizweni yakhe ejulile
- Lapho ezolile, mkhumbuze ukuthi ukushaywa noma indlela aziphathe ngayo (kufanele ucacise ukuthi bekuyini ngempela) ayamukeleki
- Thatha isikhathi sokuphumula ndawonye
- Dala indawo ethokomele ukuze uphumule
Ukuziphatha kwengane okunolaka kungaba yinselelo kubazali ukuba babhekane nakho, kepha ngokusebenzisa lezi zindlela ezinhle zokukhulisa izingane, izingane zizofunda ukuthandwa, ukuhlonishwa, nokusekelwa ngisho nangezikhathi lapho imizwa enamandla ibusa khona ukuziphatha kwazo.