NgoLwesibini, kwenziwe iphulo elikhuthazwe liCandelo loMphathiswa Wezempilo, Iinkonzo Zoluntu Nokulingana, ngenjongo yokwazisa uluntu "Iindlela ezilishumi zobundlobongela obuphathelene nesini ngokwedijithali". Ukusetyenziswa kwegeza IiNtlalo zeNtlalo kunye nomyalezo okhawulezileyo, inokuluguqula ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, kwaye ikhokelele kwiingxaki njenge thumela ngeposi okanye mkhwenyana. Ukuqhagamshela ngaphandle kwe-Intanethi "kususa izithintelo" kwaye kuququzelele unxibelelwano, kodwa ikwenze ukuba ukubonakala kweendlela ezintsha zokuphathwa gadalala kwabasetyhini.
Imveliso ephambili yeli phulo yividiyo eyenziwe ngumbutho iPantallas Amigas, ebikhuthaza ukusetyenziswa ngendlela ekhuselekileyo nenempilo yeetekhnoloji ezintsha iminyaka eli-13, ungayibona apha ngezantsi. I-audiovisual yenzelwe ukufikelela kubemi abancinci, kuba (ngokophando olwenziwe yi I-CIS ngo-2015; okanye eminye imithombo), iimeko ze ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini Ziyabonakala ngokubonakalayo kulutsha. Injongo yam ngale posi kukumilisela ukubonakaliswa okuthile, okusivumelayo Phinda uyicingisise le nto, kodwa ngaphezulu kwayo yonke impembelelo yehlabathi labantu abadala ebantwini abakwinqanaba leenguqulelo ezininzi njengokufikisa.
Kwindawo yokuqala, ukuxela ukuba njengowasetyhini, umama kunye nobufazi, ndiyakholelwa ekulinganeni, ekulinganeni kwezentlalo ekuvumela kwangaxeshanye ukuba "sihluke ngokwabantu" (njengoko uRosa de Luxembourg wayefuna). Okwesibini, njengomama, ndinentombi kunye nonyana, bobabini abaphakathi kweminyaka eli-10 neli-15 ubudala, oko kukuthi: abakwishumi elivisayo; Ndingathanda ukuba intombi yam yazi indlela yokulawula ubudlelwane bayo ngendlela esempilweni kwaye ihlale igcina eyayo imigaqo kunye nokukwazi ukunqanda abantu abanokumlawula. Ndingathanda ukuba unyana wam azakhele njengomntu okholelwa kukulingana, kwaye eqinisekile ukuba kufuneka ahloniphe elinye iqela kubuhlobo okanye kubudlelwane bezothando.
Uluntu olunetyhefu apho amantombazana ethu kunye namakhwenkwe ethu kufuneka aphile khona.
Ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili, ubomi babo buya kuxhomekeka kwiimeko ezininzi, kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba bahambisane "nembono" yam; eneneni, kunganqweneleka ukuba ukuthatha kwabo inxaxheba kube phezulu kakhulu, nangona oku kungasoloko kunjalo. Nje ukuba umntwana ofikisayo abe nabazali abangenazinjongo, "bayakhuphisana" noontanga babo, kwaye izinto zenzeka kumaziko uninzi lwethu olungafanelekanga ukuwathanda, okanye mandithi: Kuya kufuneka sazi ngeenkcukacha ezithile ezithi ngandlela thile zibumbe ubuntu babantu abatsha.
Ngethamsanqa, ndinexesha kunye nomonde (le yokugqibela ayisoloko) yokumamela abantwana, abasoloko bebala, kodwa xa besenza, ndilapho. Ngethamsanqa, ndiyakwazi ukufikelela kwamanye amantombazana kunye namanye amakhwenkwe alingana nabantwana bam, kwaye ndiyabamamela. Ezinye zezinto ezenzekayo kukulwa, ezinye iintlobo zobundlongondlongo, ukuxhatshazwa, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha "nokuzonda omnye" kuyakhuthazwa (ngezizathu zesini, ubuhlanga, inkolo ...). Andazi ipesenti yezi zehlo, kwaye kwelinye icala, Ndiyathanda nokucinga ngazo zonke izinto ezintle ezinokwenzeka kubo, ewe, imfundo njengoko sisazi ukuba ayisiyiyo le siyifunayo, kodwa bafunda ukuhlala kunye, Dibana nabanye abantu, unethuba lokufunda, njl.
Ayiloxanduva lootitshala ukuba amakhwenkwe namantombazana bavelise iimodeli ezithile zentlalo, kuba bazibona kumdlalo kamabonakude, okanye kwiziteshi zabo abazithandayo ku-YouTube, umdlalo yevidiyoBade bazivelise ngokuxelisa (kukho abazali abathandana nabantu abathandana besisini esinye, iingcamango zabo ezingena kwiingqondo ezikhulayo zabantwana babo, umzekelo). Kwenzeka ntoni emva koko xa babelana ngendawo ebonakalayo nabanye abantwana abangama-30 abakwiminyaka yabo kangangeeyure ezi-6, abayi kuxhomekeka kuphela kwinani lezinto ezinokwabelana ngesondo abanokuvezwa kuzo, kodwa baya kulungiswa nanguloo nto. Kwaye iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha zigqitha kubudlelwane obungaxhunyiwe kwi-intanethi, ukuzibonakalisa nge WhatsApp.
Thina bantu badala sinoxanduva oluphambili lokuziphatha okungafanelekanga.
Ke sinabafana abalawula amaqabane abo, abanomsindo ngenxa yokungabinayo impendulo ekhawulezileyo, ababanyanzela ukuba benze i-geolocated. Ngokuqinisekileyo abanye benu bayalazi ityala, apho umntu obhinqileyo ofuna ukulilawula, eneneni ndiyayazi, kodwa kubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesini busetyenziswa ikakhulu (okanye ngokuchasene) namantombazana, akukho mathandabuzo ngaloo nto.
Siyayazi imeko-bume yabantu abatsha, siyazi ukuba i-SR inokusetyenziselwa ukuhlala okanye ukonwaba, kodwa ukwenzakalisa, siyazi ukuba bahlala befumana imiyalezo engalunganga ... Sele sifunde ngalo lonke utshintsho olwenzeka ebudaleni, kunye nokuba sesichengeni kweli nqanaba., apho ingqondo ingekagqitywa ukuyila. Ngapha koko, ngaba sibazi ngokwenene njengoko sicinga? Ngaba siyazikhathaza ngokwazi ngazo?
Ngaba sinalo naluphi na uluvo lokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba umntu kule minyaka azame ukuzenza ngokwakhe ngelixa elungele ukuba liqela? Ngokuphikisana abahlala kwaye baziva? Ngamaxhala akho? Kungekudala intombazana eneminyaka eli-14 ubudala endithetha nayo ngalo mbandela indixelele ukuba iyayibona imachismo kweli ziko, kodwa ikwabona amakhwenkwe ecinezelwe ngabahlobo bawo ukuba atshintshe amaqabane ngokuqhubekayo, kwaye uninzi alunakufuna kuloo meko. Masingakulibali ukuba kulula kuthi, kubo akunjalo kangako, amava obomi sisidanga, nangona kucacile ukuba ukuba ixesha lokufikisa lalibonakaliswa ngokuba namava, ngekhe kube mnandi.
Kukho iintsuku apho ndicinga ukuba uluntu kufanele ukuba lwenze utshintsho kwiingcambu ukuze luphelise ezi ngxaki, ukuba liphulo nje kuphela elingayi kuba luncedo kangako; Kukho ezinye iintsuku xa ndicinga ukuba yonke into esiyenzela bona izakulunga. Kodwa masingayenzi ngoluvo olubi (besithi umzekelo "Ndifundile ukuba kukho imachismo ebusheni", ngokungathi ilizwe lethu alikho ngokwesini, kwaye ngokungathi asingobantu abadala abadlulisele imodeli kubo).
Ngamafutshane, kufuneka sisebenze nzima, kodwa ngakumbi: sibamamele, sibaqonde, sibamkele, sibancede (xa befuna uncedo), misani umzekelo, nibanike amathuba…. Kwaye ngoku ewe, ndikushiya nevidiyo.