Imizwa yezingane akuyona inkinga noma inselele ... Bayithuba lokuxhumana nezingane futhi uzifundise. Lapho imizwa ishuba kakhulu, abantu bavame ukwenza izinto abangajwayele ukuzenza, nezingane zenza okufanayo. Yize bebancane kakhulu, lokhu kungenzeka kubo isikhathi esiningi sosuku ngoba imizwa yabo inamandla kakhulu ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ukuzilawula ngokomzwelo kuyingxenye enkulu yobuhlakani obungokomzwelo futhi kuyikhono lokuphatha ulwazi nokuvezwa kwemizwelo. Ngokuzijwayeza, izingane zithuthukisa amandla azo okuzilawula ngokomzwelo. Eminyakeni emine ubudala, iningi lezingane liqala ukusebenzisa amasu ukuqeda iziphazamiso zangaphandle eziphazamisayo. Ngamanye amagama, bavala amehlo lapho besaba futhi bavale izindlebe zabo lapho bezwa umsindo omkhulu.
Ngeke kuze kube yiminyaka eyi-10 lapho izingane zihlala zisebenzisa amasu ayinkimbinkimbi okuzilawula ngokomzwelo. Lezi zindlela zingahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezimbili ezilula: lezo ezizama ukuxazulula inkinga nalezo ezizama ukubekezelela imizwa. Lapho ingane ikwazi ukwenza izinguquko ukubhekana nezinkinga izobe isibandakanyeka ukubhekana nenkinga eyayiyikhombe phambilini. Lapho kubhekwa ukuthi inkinga ayinakuxazululwa, lapho-ke kuzodingeka ukuthi sebenzela imizwelo kunokufunda ukuyibekezelela nokulawula ukucindezeleka.
Lawa ngamasu wokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo, ahlanganisa ukuqwashisa, ukuqonda, kanye nokukwazi ukuveza nokuphatha imizwa. Ngenkathi umhlaba ugxile empumelelweni nasemncintiswaneni, imfundo yezemizwa (kanye nokuzilawula) ibekelwe eceleni.
Ukuzithiba, ucezu lwe ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo, kubaluleke kakhulu ekubikezeleni impumelelo yezingane nempumelelo yesikhathi esizayo. Izingane ezikwazi ukuvimbela izinkanuko (ezivame ukuqhutshwa yimizwa) futhi zigweme iziphazamiso ziyakwazi ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okuhle kakhulu futhi zifeze izinhloso zazo ... Inqobo nje uma imizwelo ingabacindezeli, kepha kunalokho yiqonde futhi wazi ukuthi ungayilawula kanjani.
Yonke imizwa inenjongo
Ucezu lokuqala lokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo ukuqwashisa nokuqonda imizwa. Kufanele siyiqonde futhi siyamukele ngaphambi kokuthi siyilawule futhi siyiveze. Imizwelo ayisiyo inkinga, kepha kunalokho iyisiqeshana sokuziphendukela kwemvelo komuntu okufeza injongo. Imizwa yethu ngayinye eyinhloko iguquke yakhonza izinhloso ezahlukahlukene futhi yashukumisa nokuziphatha kwethu.
Izingane ezikhula ziqaphela ngokomzwelo zizoba nempilo enhle, zenze kangcono esikoleni, futhi zizwane kangcono nabangane. Ukudabuka kungumzwelo oyingqayizivele okwazi ukusenza sibuyele emuva, kokubili emcabangweni nasemisebenzini yezimoto. Lokhu kungasinikeza ithuba lokucabanga ngomthombo wokucindezeleka kwethu ngokomzwelo futhi sibhekisise isizinda ukuze sikwazi ukuthola isixazululo esingokomzwelo.
Ngokuphambene, Intukuthelo iyasheshisa, ihlanganise amandla amakhulu futhi ithumele igazi emaphethelweni ethu. Yize iziphendukela kwemvelo, lokhu kwasilungiselela impi. Ezikhathini zanamuhla, kuvumela amandla asimeme empini yemvelo ehlukile kunalokho okwavela kithi. Intukuthelo isitshela ukuthi amalungelo ethu ephuliwe futhi isisiza ukuthi sihlangane ukuze sizivikele ezinsongweni ezizayo.
Imizwa yethu kumele ihlonishwe futhi ibonakaliswe. Lokhu kufaka nemizwa enamandla yezingane zethu ezimweni ezibonakala zingenamandla. I-American Academy of Pediatrics yeluleke abazali ukuthi bangasebenzisi ubuchwepheshe njengendlela yokwehlisa noma yokuthambisa imizwa engemihle ezinganeni. Ngokuqondile, bazwakalise ukukhathazeka ngokuthi ukusetshenziswa kwabezindaba kuyisu lokuthoba umoya nokuthi ukwenza lokho kungaholela ezinkingeni zokubeka imingcele noma ukwehluleka kwezingane ukuzakhela umthethonqubo wazo wezemizwa. Izingane zidinga ukuzwa yonke imizwa yazo futhi zifunde ukuzibekezelela ukuze zikhuthaze ukuzithiba okuhle kanye nokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo.
Indlela abazali abayiphendula ngayo imizwa yezingane zabo
Ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo bubukeka njengesibikezelo sempumelelo yabantu, yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sisebenzele kukho kusukela lapho izingane zisencane kakhulu (abazali baba ngabokuqala ukuzuza kusukela lapho ukuze bafundise izingane ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo, yibo abazoba yibo kuqala okumele baqonde futhi baphathe imizwa yabo). Udokotela. UJohn gottman ufunde ukuthi abazali bayiphendula kanjani imizwa yezingane zabo, ngoba lokhu kubalulekile ekukhuleni (noma cha) kokuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo ezinganeni. UJohn Gottman uthole ukuthi abazali baphendula imizwa yezingane ngezindlela ezine ezihlukene. Izindlela ezi-4 zimi kanje:
- Zama ukuqeda imizwa. Lapho abazali bezama ukubukela phansi imizwa yezingane zabo ngeziphazamiso, batshela izingane zabo ukuthi imizwa yabo ayibalulekile.
- Ukungavumeli imizwa. Ukungavunyelwa kwemizwa emibi kuvame ukwenziwa ngokujeziswa, futhi ingane ingazizwa ingaqondakali futhi ikhungathekile.
- Abazali abamukela imizwa kodwa bangabasizi. Abazali abamukela imizwa yezingane zabo kodwa abangazisizi ukuxazulula izinkinga, ukuziqondisa, noma ukunciphisa imikhawulo yokuziphatha okungafanele.
- Abazali abasebenza ngemizwa yezingane zabo. Ukusebenza ngemizwa yezingane kukhombisa ukuthi abazali bayazisa kanjani imizwa emibi yezingane zabo, kepha abanaso isineke ekuyivezeni. Basebenzisa okuhlangenwe nakho ngokomzwelo njengethuba lokufunda kubo bonke, ukuqinisa inyunyana nokunikeza ukuma okuhle emizweni, ukuyiqamba amagama nokufuna ukuxazululwa kwezingxabano okufanele inkinga ebuzwayo.
Konke lokhu kusisiza ukuthi siqonde ukuthi abazali abasebenza ngemizwa yezingane zabo bazokhulisa kanjani izingane ezinempilo nezilinganise kangcono ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo.. Abazali abakukhathalelayo ukusebenza kahle emizweni yezingane zabo ngeke babe nemizwa yecala ngoba bazokwazi ukuthi benza konke okusemandleni ukuze izingane zabo zikhule zizinze ngokomzwelo futhi ngaleyo ndlela, zifinyelele empumelelweni.