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Imfundo yezingane zethu kungomunye wemithwalo yethu yemfanelo njengabazali. Inhlonipho ihamba phambili lokho kubuswa ngaphakathi kwesigaba somndeni futhi lapho kukhona izinto ezimbili senza sengathi ulaka aluphoqiwe. Lesi simo senzeka lapho sibona ukuthi indodana yethu usiphatha kabi ngokwengqondo.
Kunemindeni eminingi obe kudingeke kuyo yonke le minyaka bika izingane zakho yezingxabano ezahlukahlukene ngokucasulwa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Isikhalazo sidalulwe lapho ingekho indlela yokuphuma, ngokuba nomthelela ofanayo wezinhlungu zendodana nabazali.
Kufanele sikucabangele nini ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwengqondo?
Kuliqiniso elikhona emakhaya amaningi futhi umbuzo uthi ungakubheka kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa kuya ngemvelaphi neminyaka yengane. Impikiswano, ukuhlambalaza noma ukuphendula kwengane eneminyaka engu-4, ingane eneminyaka engu-8 noma eyishumi, noma eyeve eshumini nambili eneminyaka eyi-10 noma eyi-14 akufani. Inkinga idaleka lapho lesi simo ngokwengqondo kuhlasela amakhanda abanye abazali futhi kwakha indawo enobuthi nehlukumezayo.
Ukwehla kozwela nokungahloniphi kuqala lapho izingane zisencane. Ingane ekwazi ngokwanele futhi enesisekelo esincane sokukhohlisa, izobe isivele inesidingo sokuphonsela inselelo abazali bayo ukufakazela igunya lakho. Kuleli qophelo yilapho behlola khona bese belinda ukubona ukuthi kwenzekani.
Uma abazali bengakwazanga ukusingatha lesi simo kungaleso sikhathi abangaba ngaso ukulawula izingane ngezimfuno zazo. Bakwenza ikakhulukazi ngomama futhi abasayilandeli imithetho noma imingcele. Ezimweni eziningi zalezi zimo kuba kubi kakhulu futhi lapho yonke into iqale khona usongo ngokwengqondo, kugcina kuba wukuhlaselwa ngokomzimba.
Kungani lokhu kuhlukunyezwa ngokwengqondo kwenzeka?
Ngokuvamile bayizingane bakhule ngokungabikho kwamananiAbazange babe nomuzwa noma isibopho esingokomzwelo nabazali babo, noma nabanye abantu. Zibonakala nge- "Emperor syndrome" ngenxa yokuntula ukwazi, ngoba abakwazi ukubona imizwa futhi abazweli ngokomoya.
Lapho ufuna ukubafundisa futhi ubenze bafunde emaphutheni abo, njengomthetho ojwayelekile abasaphenduli emakhono abo emfundo. Ezimweni eziningi imvamisa kungabantu abagxila ekuziphatheni kwabo futhi baphendulele konke kube yinzuzo yabo, kungakhathalekile izidingo noma izicelo zabanye. Ngokuvamile banokuzwelana okuphansi futhi ngeke bazisole nganoma yini.
Ukwenza ukubonwa okujwayelekile izingane noma intsha ehlala njalo ziphikisana nezingane zakubo, abazali, ngisho nabangane. Ukunamathela kubazali babo sekunyamalele, bengakaze babuze ukuthi babaluleke kangakanani.
Ungakuvimbela kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo yengane yethu
Isisekelo senkinga enjengale kuqala endaweni yayo. Izingane kufanele zifundiswe zisencane ukuthi zingasebenzisi udlame futhi ngenxa yalokhu akufanele sizisebenzise, thina njengabazali, kuzo. Abazali bangabokuqala uku yisibonelo ngokuhlukunyezwa kusukela lapho I-blackmail ayiyinhle noma izingxoxo ezigcina ngokushaywa.
Imfundo engokomzwelo Kuyingxenye yohlobo lokufundisa ukuthi izingane kufanele zifundiswe, ngisho zisencane kakhulu. Konke kuqala ngokuxhumana, ngokwabelana ngamava, ukukhathazeka, imizwa, ukuthanda ... Ngale ndlela imizwa iphethwe wezingane zethu kusukela zisencane.
Akudingeki uzenelise ngazo zonke izifiso zabo, noma uqinise ngakho konke abakucelayo kithi. Nabo kufanele bazi ukuthi kumele bazuze kanjani impumelelo yabo, ukhungatheke lapho kunesidingo futhi ube ukuzithiba ngemizwa yabo.
Kuyinkinga enzima ukuyiphatha nokuthi abazali kufanele baphi qondisa leyo ndima yokuzithiba. Abazali kufanele babe ngabokuqala ukuphatha imizwa. Ukungavikeleki yikhona okuphumelelayo kukho konke futhi uma sizihlukanisa nakho singasiza izingane zethu lapho zididekile futhi zingazethembi. Kufanele sibeke ukuxhumana kokuqala njengeyunithi yomndeni futhi senze izingane zethu thuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakho.