Ngiyakhumbula ngenkathi ngifunda isakhiwo sikaSigmund Freud sika-Oedipus ekolishi ukuchaza isigaba ekukhuleni kwengane. USigmund Freud uthathe leli gama emdlalweni wasendulo wamaGrikhi obizwa nge-Oedipus Rex. Kulomdlalo, umbhuli ubikezela ukuthi umntwana u-Oedipus uzobulala ubaba wakhe ashade nonina. Ukuvimbela lesi sikhathi, umama ka-Oedipus unikeza abelusi bakhe umyalo wokumbulala.
Labelusi bayayihawukela impilo yengane bayikhulise futhi ekugcineni isiphetho sigcwaliseka ngaphandle kokuthi le nsizwa yazi lutho ngesiphetho ebesimvikela. UFreud ubheka ukufana kule ndaba lapho echaza emibonweni yakhe isigaba sokukhula kwengane lapho izinikele kunina. Kepha, Ziyini izimpawu ze-Oedipus complex?
Yini i-Oedipus syndrome?
Isakhiwo se-Oedipus imvamisa ivela phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 nengu-7 enganeni futhi iyisigaba esijwayelekile sokukhula okuhambisanayo komncane okumele ayidlulise. Omncane uqala ukuzwa isifiso sokuba kakhulu nonina futhi angadala inzondo ethile kubaba.
Lesi sigaba njengoba nje siqala, kufanele inyamalale. Iqiniso lokuthi ingane ayiyinqobi ngokwanele kungaholela ebudlelwaneni obungenampilo nomama. Lokhu kungakhula ngokuhamba kweminyaka futhi kuze kukhiqize ukuncika ngokomzwelo komncane.
Uma lokhu kuncika kwemizwa kwenzeka, ngeke kukuvumele ukuthi ukhule kahle. Kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu kwenqatshwa kukababa kuyanyamalala futhi kancane kancane uzoqala ukuzibandakanya nobaba futhi agxile kuye njengesibonelo sabantu abadala.
Isakhiwo se-Oedipus: inganekwane yamaGrikhi nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo
Ezinganekwaneni zamaGrikhi, INkosi uLaius yathola ngomlomo ukuthi izobulawa yindodana yayo lapho isikhulile futhi izoshada nonina. Yingakho umyalelo uthi mababulale ingane, kodwa lokhu akwenzekanga ngoba abelusi basindise impilo yakhe kwathi lapho indodana yeNkosi ibuyela eThebes yagcwalisa lesi siprofetho ingazi. Wabulala uyise washada nomama wakhe engazi ukuthi umama wakhe.
Lapho sibhekisa ekukhuleni kwengane, i-Oedipus complex ingenzeka phakathi neminyaka yokuqala yokuphila. Ingane izokuzwa ukulahlwa nguyise, ukwenqatshwa okuzonqotshwa lapho ikhomba noyise ngaphandle kokuzwa isifiso sikanina.
I-Oedipus ne-Electra
Ngaphezu kwenkimbinkimbi ye-Oedipus, i-Electra complex nayo yaziwa. Luhlobo olufanayo lobunzima kepha kwabesifazane. Idwetshwe nguCarl Gustav Jung futhi Kuyaqondakala njengalapho owesifazane osekhulile onenkinga ye-Electra enobudlelwano obuqinile noyise, okufana nokukhanga kothando. Ngasikhathi sinye, laba besifazane futhi banombango oqinile nonina, ngoba bambona njengembangi.
Izimpawu ze-Oedipus complex ezinganeni
Ingane uvamise ukuhehwa ngunina bese eqala ukukhombisa ubutha kuyise. Izimpawu kwabancane yilezi:
- Ingane ifuna ukunakwa kunina.
- Uthi ufuna ukushada noMama.
- Uzizwa ephethwe ngumama wakhe.
Izimpawu eziyinkimbinkimbi ze-Oedipus kubantu abadala
Kodwa kubalulekile futhi ukwazi ukuthi ngabe kwenzeka kumuntu omdala. Ukwazi lokhu, ungaphuthelwa ukuthi yiziphi izimpawu noma izici ezivame kakhulu:
- Ukusondelana kakhulu nonina nokumncoma
- Banikela ngonina kuqala kunanoma isiphi esinye isimo noma umuntu osempilweni yabo
- Bahlale becela iseluleko nemvume kunina ngakho konke, abazi ukuthi bangazithathela kanjani izinqumo zabo
- Banenkinga yezocansi nabalingani babo ngoba banezifiso zocansi ezingazi ezicindezelwe ngunina
- Bajwayele ukuba nobudlelwano bomuntu siqu obunobuthi futhi ubudlelwane abuhlali isikhathi eside
- Bavame ukuthandana nabantu abangatholakali
- Kwesinye isikhathi bathembele kunina, ngisho nakwezomnotho njengomuntu omdala
- Abaze bezwe umuzwa wokugcwala
- Bavame ukuba nabalingani abadala kunabo
- Kungenzeka besabe ukusondelana nomunye umuntu
Inkimbinkimbi ye-Oedipus: lapho inganqotshwa
Kunezingane ezihlala ziboshelwe kulesi sigaba futhi ezingakwazi ukusinqoba. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngeminyaka engaphezu kwengu-30, ngokwesibonelo, basabambelele esigabeni sempilo yabo lapho bezizwa bezinikele kunina futhi benengeka ubaba. Lapho lokhu kwenzeka kufanele ilashwe ukuyivimbela ukuthi ingabi ngezifo.
Imiphumela yokunganqobi ubunzima be-Oedipus
Kubalulekile ukuthi welashwe kusuka ebuntwaneni ukugwema imiphumela eshiwo ephuzwini elidlule. Ukwehluleka ukwenza lokho, imiphumela izobakhona empilweni yomuntu othintekayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uzoba nezinkinga zengqondo ezizomvimbela ekugcineni impilo ejwayelekile futhi ephelele. Kungathinta indawo eyodwa noma eziningi zempilo yakho.
Eqinisweni, uzoba umuntu ongavuthiwe onesimilo esibuthakathaka ngoba njalo kuncike kunina. Awusoze waba ngumuntu owenele futhi ngeke ube nezinsizakusebenza zakho zezezimali. Uzoba ngumuntu okhungathekile ngokungazi ukuthi kufanele uyihole kanjani impilo yakho ngendlela efanele. Futhi, uma unomlingani uzoba nezingxabano ngokuqhubekayo. Izinhloso noma izinhloso ozibekayo ngeke zifinyelele kuzo futhi uzozizwa kabi kuzo zonke izici zempilo yakho.
Kuzoba ngumuntu onokungazinzi nobuthakathaka obungokomzwelo, akakakhuli ngokomzwelo… kepha uzoba nokuvuthwa ngokwengqondo nangokwezocansi. Konke lokhu, ngaphandle kokwelashwa, kungadala izinkinga ezinkulu ezingokomzwelo, ngisho nokuhlushwa uhlobo oluthile lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo ngokuzayo.
Uma inkinga igxilile, isixazululo sizothatha isikhathi eside ukufika, kepha ngamandla nokuzimisela kungenzeka ukukufeza ngosizo lochwepheshe omuhle enikeza imihlahlandlela okufanele ilandelwe nsuku zonke. Isinyathelo sokuqala ukubona inkinga, yeka ukufuna ukuba yingane uphathe impilo yakho.