Kuvamile uma intsha ilwa, ikakhulukazi uma iyizelamani. Noma yikuphi ukungasho lutho kuyisizathu sokuthi balwe njengokungathi bayizingane ezincane, nakuba besebenzisa ulimi oluhlukile nolwabantu abadala nakakhulu. Ukulwa kwezelamani nakho kufeza injongo ewusizo okumelwe bayifunde. Lapho izingane noma abantu abasha bexoxa nabazali, bafunda ngegunya. Kunalokho, ukusebenzelana nezingane zakubo kuzisiza ukuthi zifunde futhi zizijwayeze amakhono obudlelwane nontanga.
Uma ukulwa kwezelamani kusingathwa ngendlela efanele, bazofunda amakhono ahlukene awusizo kakhulu ekuthuthukisweni kwabo kwezenhlalo nezomsebenzi esikhathini esizayo. Amakhono afana nezinkinga nokuxazulula izingxabano, ukuzwelana, ukubhekana nemibono eyahlukene, ukuvumelana nokuxoxisana kuyoba yingxenye yobuntu babo. Ngalesi sizathu, akudingekile ukubavimba ukuthi balwe, okumele ukwenze ukuzama ukuxazulula ukungezwani kwabo ngaphandle kokungqubuzana okuqhubekayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ngenzenjani uma intsha yami ilwa?
Izimpi phakathi kwezelamani zingadala imizwelo enamandla kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukubasiza bagcine ukuthula kuyilapho besebenzela ukuxazulula izingxabano zabo. Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi bangase badinge isikhathi ngaphambi kokuba babhekane nezinkinga zabo ndawonye, kodwa indima yabazali ukulamula ngokuthula ukuze baxazulule izinkinga bodwa nangokuthula. Zama ukubacela ukuthi balalele umbono womunye nomunye futhi bathole indawo emaphakathi.
Uma nilwela okuthile okuphathekayo, njengomdlalo wevidiyo noma ucezu lwezingubo, isibonelo, yikhumule kuze kube yilapho nithola isisombululo ndawonye. Ezikhathini eziningi, ngeke bakwazi ukuxazulula izingxabano zabo ngokwabo futhi kuleso simo Kuzodingeka ukuthi kungenelele ukuze le nkinga ingagxili kusenesikhathi. Babuze ukuthi kungani bexabana nokuthi bafunani. Ukusuka lapho, zama ukuthola izixazululo. Qinisekisa ukuthi kukhona ukuvumelana phakathi kwalaba ababili, okungukuthi, kufanele bavume ukuze kwenzeke isivumelwano.
Indlela yokunciphisa ukulwa kwezelamani esikhathini esizayo?
Intsha bayashesha ukubona ukuthi baphathwa ngendlela ehlukile, ebuhleni nasebubini. Futhi uma bethola lokho, bazokusebenzisa ukuze kuzuze bona. Nakuba kungeyona into ehlosiwe, ukuqhathanisa enye yezingane zakho nenye kuzodala imizwa emibi phakathi kwabo. Gxila emandleni omuntu ngamunye ngokuzimela. Ngamunye muhle noma muhle entweni eyodwa, futhi lokho kulungile. Bangakwazi ukusizana futhi lokho kwenza umehluko ube muhle.
Ukuchitha isikhathi esiseqophelweni eliphezulu nengane yakho ngayinye kubaluleke kakhulu kuwena njengoba kubalulekile kuzo, futhi kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuba nazane kangcono. Akumele sikukhohlwe lokho izingane azikhuli ngokwanele ukuba zichithe isikhathi nazo futhi uqhubeke ubazi. Bachazele ukuthi ukuhlukana kwabo ngeminyaka kusho umehluko kulokho abavunyelwe ukukwenza kanye nezibopho abanazo. Unalokhu engqondweni, qiniseka ukuthi bathola impatho efanayo ngeminyaka efanayo.
Ukwakha ubudlelwano obuhle bomndeni ukuze izingane zakini zingalwi
Ekhaya kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nendawo yomuntu siqu engaphazanyiswa ngaphandle kwemvume ecacile. Ukuba negumbi lakho, impahla engadluliseki, noma isikhathi nabangani ngaphandle kokuthi uhlanganise izingane zakini kubalulekile. Kodwa futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nezikhala nesikhathi okufanayo nawo wonke umndeni. Ukwabelana ngezinto zokuzilibazisa ezifana nezemidlalo, ukuthenga, ukupheka noma ukubuka amamuvi ndawonye imisebenzi okufanele igqugquzelwe ukuze ukuxhumana phakathi kwawo wonke amalungu kungabi namanzi.
Eqinisweni, ukuxhumana kuyithuluzi elibaluleke kakhulu kuyo yonke imindeni. Izingane zakho kufanele zazi ukuthi zingakhuluma nawe nganoma yiluphi udaba oluzikhathazayo, nokuthi uyozama njalo ukubasiza ukuba bathole izixazululo. Ukuba nemihlangano yomkhaya yokuxoxa ngezinkinga kuyokwenza umkhaya ube nobunye lapho kuziwa ekusingatheni izingxabano zangaphakathi. Kuyindlela ithonya elihle kuzo. Ngale ndlela bayokwazi ukubheka futhi bafunde indlela abazali babo abaxoxisana ngayo futhi babhekane ngayo nokungezwani kwabo. Kumelwe baqaphele ukuthi kuyinto evamile ukuba izingane zakubo zilwe, kodwa futhi ukuxazulula izingxabano nakho kuyinto evamile,
Ungalufuna nini usizo lwangaphandle?
Izimpi zezelamani zifinyelela umvuthwandaba ekuqaleni kokuthomba, lapho ingane yakini encane ifinyelela kuleyo minyaka. Uma osemusha ebona ingane yakini endala njengomunye onegunya, ukulwa kungakhula. njengoba osemusha ezama ukuthola inkululeko kubazali nakubafowabo. Lokhu kuqhelelana nezibalo zeziphathimandla kuyingxenye yokuthuthukela ekuvuthweni.
Izindawo ezivame kakhulu zokungqubuzana phakathi abazalwane abasebasha ziwukulingana nokungakhethi, indawo yomuntu siqu, impahla, nabangane. Izikhathi eziningi lezi zingxabano ziba ezingalawuleki emndenini, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukufuna usizo lwangaphandle. Lapho ukulwa kwezelamani kufinyelela ezingeni elingenambuyiselo, lapho kucasula noma kulimaza abanye abantu, noma ukungqubuzana kuphenduka ukuziphatha okunolaka kokubili ngamazwi nangokwenyama, funa usizo.
Ukuxoxa ngesimo nodokotela wakho kungaba isinyathelo sokuqala. Ukumtshela ukuthi izingane zakho ezisanda kweva eshumini nambili ziyalwa akuyona into ezommangaza, kodwa uma uchaza isimo esinzima umndeni wakho obhekene naso, uzokwenza inqubo yokusiza umndeni. Angakudlulisela kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esibhekene nezinkinga zokuziphatha kwezingane nentsha. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukubandakanya kokubili intsha, usizo ludingwa yibo bobabili.