Ngesikhathi soSuku Lwabesifazane, sizokhuluma ngokuthi yini udlame lobulili. Sizokwenza ngokubala, ngaphezu kwefayela le- izwi labesifazane abashaywayo abanikeze ubufakazi babo ukubhala lezi zincwadi. Sizobakhulumela ngokuthi kuyini, izinhlobo ezahlukene zodlame lobulili ezikhona kanye nomthelela wemfundo yezocansi kumazinga odlame lobulili.
Ushintsho luyadingeka ukunciphisa lezi zinkomba, shintsha okulele emfundweni yokulingana, azikho izinkolelo-ze zezindima zobulili. Funda nathi ukuthola ukuhlukunyezwa okucashile nama-micromachisms amukelwa ngokwesiko.
Luyini udlame lobulili?
Sichaza udlame lobulili njengo noma yiluphi uhlobo lodlame, olwenziwa komunye umuntu, ngenxa yezizathu zobulili kuphela. Lokho wukuthi, konke ukuziphatha okwenziwe ukulimaza omunye umuntu, emzimbeni noma ngokwengqondo, ngoba kungokobulili obuthile. Le yincazelo esemthethweni yokuthi yini udlame lobulili.
Ubufakazi balaba besifazane abangamaqhawe buholela ekubonisweni ukuthi udlame lobulili yinoma yimuphi umzamo wokususa ukuthula, impilo kanye nenkululeko yomuntu othi uyamthanda, ukuze kuzuze wena. Inzuzo engaqondakali, ngoba isebenza kuphela ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabantu abazibonayo.
Izinhlobo ezahlukene zodlame lobulili
Kunezinhlobo ezintathu eziyinhloko zodlame olusekelwe ebulilini:
- Udlame lomzimba: Yiyo eshiya imikhondo ekubukekeni kwayo, okungukuthi, amagalelo, amahlumela, ukuluma noma yiluphi uhlobo lwesilonda esidalwe ngumhlaseli.
- Udlame lwengqondo: Yileso esisetshenziswa ngenhlamba, ukumemeza, ukuhlazeka nokukhohlisa, kucashile kakhulu futhi kubangela ukuthi isisulu uqobo sizizwe sinecala ngokuphendula komhlukumezi waso. Ngaphakathi kwalolu hlobo lodlame, nathi singahlukanisa ezinye izinhlobo ezimbili zodlame. Eyokuqala yi- udlame emphakathini, okubandakanya ukukhipha isisulu endaweni yaso, ukuze sikwazi ukusisebenzisa kalula. Enye i- udlame lwezomnotho, lapho umhlukumezi ephatha izimali zomndeni ngendlela eyenza isisulu sincike ngokuphelele, ukumvimbela ukuthi angasuki kuye.
- Udlame ngocansi: Kuqukethe ukuphoqa noma ukusongela isisulu ukuze sifinyelele ucansi.
Ukuphoqelelwa ukugcina ubudlelwane nakho ukuhlukunyezwa.
Izwi labesifazane bethu abangamaqhawe lisivezela ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kunobuso obuningi, ukuthi umhlukumezi ayiqali njalo ngokushaya nokuthi akudingeki ukuthi igcine ikunikeze nayo. Kwesinye isikhathi ivele ikubambe, ikusongele iwebhu bese ikuklinya, yebe ingqikithi yakho ngaphandle kokuyibona futhi ichithe ngokuphelele intando yakho yokuphunyuka.
Ukuhlukumeza okucashile nama-micromachisms
Kwesinye isikhathi ukuhlukunyezwa akubonakali njengoba kubonakala, yingakho kunjalo akulula kangako ukuzibona. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi ukuhlukunyezwa okucashile futhi iqukethe, isibonelo, imibono ebonakala ingenacala lokho kubukela phansi ukuzethemba komuntu ohlukunyeziwe. Luhlobo lokuhlukumeza olufuna ukuncipha, imvamisa njengesinyathelo sangaphambilini sokuhlukunyezwa okucacile. Yize kwesinye isikhathi kungenxa nje yamasiko nezenhlalo es yamukelwa, njengama-micromachisms.
Kwesinye isikhathi ukuhlukunyezwa kucashile kangangokuba kungabonakali ngeso lenyama.
Ama-micromachisms acashile kangangokuba asiwaqondi njenge machismo. Isibonelo, ukunikezwa kwezindima zobulili, izinto ezicashile ezifana netafula lokushintsha ingane elisegumbini labesifazane. Umsebenzi okhethekile wokuba ngumama kuthiwa ngowesifazane onaleli qiniso. Lokho kungathathwa njenge-micromachismo, kanye nokubandlulula umuntu emsebenzini ngenxa yezizathu zobulili, ngokuhle noma kabi.
Ithonya lemfundo yezocansi kanye nobudlelwano bayo nodlame lobulili
Usuku nosuku, kusenemfundo ephawulwe ngokobulili, ekhaya nasemakilasini. Kukhona ukucwasana ngokobulili olimini, ekuziphatheni komphakathi, kuyinto ehlelekile, esesigxilile kakhulu kuyo. Yingakho kudingekile ukulwa nayo kusuka ekhaya futhi kusukela emakilasini.
Isibonelo sobulili lapho sifundisa khona izingane zethu ukuthi kusekhona amathoyizi athathwa njenge- «girlish» noma «boyish»
Imfundo yobulili inomthelela ekukhuleni kodlame lobulili, ngenxa yezizathu ezintathu:
- Ikhuthaza ukuphakama kobulili obubodwa ngaphezu kobunye: amantombazane mahle, abafana bahlakaniphile, amantombazane ahloniphekile futhi abafana banamandla.
- Isiza udlame kwezomnotho nakwezenhlalo: imfundo yezocansi ivuna ukucwaswa kwabasebenzi ngenxa yezizathu zobulili, okungahle kube khona ukuthi abesifazane baphoqeleke ukuncika kwezomnotho kubalingani babo. Ingcindezi yezenhlalo ebhekiswe ekubeni ngumama kanye nokuntuleka kokulinganisela kwempilo yokuphila nakho kuyalithonya leli qiniso, kanye nokuhlukaniswa komphakathi nesisulu.
- Kwenza kube nzima ukuthola ukuhlukunyezwa okucashile kanye nama-micromachisms: kunzima kakhulu uma isiko lakho lisekela lolu hlobo lokuziphatha ngandlela thile ukulithola. Ngakho-ke, kusivimbela ekuqhubekeni komphakathi, okwephula ngokweqile izinkolelo zobulili futhi kufinyelele ezingeni lomphakathi ohlukahlukene nolinganayo.
Izwi lamaqhawe ethu
Asikwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthula izwi lezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa.
Laba besifazane abanikeze ubufakazi babo, bakwenza kucace kithi isidingo sokuqeda ubandlululo emfundweni yezingane zethu. Udlame lobulili luyaqhubeka lukhula, ebusheni, esigabeni sabantu abadala. Kunezindaba eziningi ezandayo ezisembulela zona. Amaqhawe amaningi njengawo, ukunikeza ubufakazi bawo, abaningi ngokwengeziwe abalahlekile, ngoba akubona bonke abanenhlanhla efanayo.
Asikwazi ukuvumela izingane zethu, kungakhathaliseki ubulili bazo, ukuthi zizizwe ziphakeme kunalezo ezihlukile. Asikwazi ukuvumela noma ngubani abe namandla okuthobisa, ukushaya noma ukuthulisa izwi lomunye umuntu, ukuze anqobe intando yakhe, athathe impilo yakhe, emzimbeni noma emoyeni. Kufanele siphakamise amazwi ethu, sikhulumele la maqhawe, ngoba yimina, nguwe, yibo, simunye, SONKE.