Kokubili ukulimala ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo kwenzeka ekuhlukunyezweni ngokocansi.
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kwezingane uhlobo lokuhlukumeza olwenzeka ezinganeni. Lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lukhiqiza ukulimala kwengane, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Izingane ziyakha futhi lolu hlobo lokuziphatha lungadala ukuhlukumezeka impilo yonke. Ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo kobulili kumntwana kungenziwa ngumuntu omdala noma omunye osemncane. Bangakwazi faka ukuthintana ngokomzimba noma ukuzivocavoca umzimba ukuze kujatshulelwe umuntu owonile.
Endabeni yabantu abahlukunyezwa ngokocansi, izinga liphezulu emantombazaneni. Izingane zivame ukungazi ngalesi senzo nobucayi baso. I- ama-sequelae akhiqizwa kuzo angabonakala esikhathini esifushane nesikhathi eside. Kumele sibheke futhi sizame ukugwema lolu hlobo lokulimala kwabancane.
Imiphumela yesikhathi esifushane neyesikhathi eside
Isikhathi esifushane, cishe izingane ezingama-80% zihlushwa imiphumela engokwengqondo nengokomzwelo, njengokukhathazeka, ukuhoxa, noma okuphansi ukuzihlonipha, futhi bebancane kakhulu futhi bengenawo amathuluzi okubhekana nalesi simo, bathambekele ekuboniseni ukuphika. Imiphumela ingafakazelwa ukwehluleka kwesikole nobunzima ekusunguleni ubudlelwane bezenhlalo. Ukushoda kokutholwa kwamakhono ezenhlalo kuvamile. Ezingeni lomzimba, izingane bavame ukuba namaphupho amabi futhi balahlekelwe ukuqeqeshwa endlini yangasese noma ukhombise imikhuba yokudla enezinkinga.
Ama-30% wezisulu avame ukuthinteka esikhathini eside. Izinkinga zobunikazi bezocansi, ukungasebenzi kahle kwezocansi, isimilo eseqile ngokweqile, ukucindezeleka kanye nengcindezi yangemva kwenhlekelele kwenzeka. Emantombazaneni afinyelela ebusheni ngokuvamile kubangelwa ukusabela okukhathazayo nokuzilimazayo nakubafana, izenzo zobudlova.
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi emantombazaneni kubangela ukukhathazeka nokudangala.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, labo abahlukunyezwe ngokocansi bangadalula izinkinga zabo ezinhlungwini ezingapheli noma ezinkingeni zengqondo, ukuphazamiseka kobunikazi nobunzima bokuveza imizwa yabo. Ngisho Lapho befika ebudaleni, kungahle kube nenkinga maqondana nokubopha, kwakha izibopho zothando nokusondelana nezingane zabo., amathuba amakhulu okudayisa ngomzimba noma ukudlwengula nokuntuleka kokwaneliseka noma ukwaliwa lapho uya ocansini.
Kwezinye izimo, uma kungazange kube nokungena okunzima ngokweqile, uma isisulu singenazo ezinye izinkinga ezengeziwe, umthelela ngokuvamile awubi kangako. Okunzima kakhulu ukuxazulula kwenzeka lapho imicimbi iqhubeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma kunodlame, uma umhlukumezi eyilungu lomndeni noma umngani womndeni, noma uma kunemicimbi emibi ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa, njengokuntuleka kokwesekwa , umonakalo engxenyeni yomndeni….
Eminyakeni edlule, ezimpilweni zezingane, ukulahlwa kwekhaya, ukuphuza kabi utshwala nezinye izinto, ukuziphatha kabi ngokocansi, ukuphazamiseka kwe-dissociative kanye njengoba kubucayi kakhulu ukucindezeleka, ukuziphatha okuzilimazayo futhi ekugcineni ukuzibulala.
Umuntu ohluphekayo yingane, eyeve eshumini nambili nendoda uma isikhulile. Isisulu ngumuntu ohlukunyeziwe futhi inxeba ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Inhlangano kufanele ibe sezandleni zalaba bantu futhi, qinisekisa ukuphepha kwabancane abangakwazi ukuzivikela ngaphambi kwalezi zidlakela.
Ezimweni eziningi, lapho isisulu noma abazali bezingane abancane bezama ukubika, ubugebengu bunqumile, into okufanele iguqulwe. Ingane ingakunqoba futhi ibhekane nakho, ngosizo lochwepheshe nangokwemvelo yayo inkinga, kepha akudingeki uzizwe uwedwa ukuze uphinde ubekhona futhi uzethembe.