Ingane yokutholwa ayinakho okunamathiselwe kukanina wegazi nobaba kusukela ekuzalweni.
Ukushiywa ngubaba kuyisilonda esinzima ukuphola, noma ngabe unothando nokunakekelwa kwabanye. Ake sithole ukuthi yini ebangela ukuthi izingane ezilahliwe nezamukelwe zidinge ukuthola izimpande zazo nokuhlangana nabazali bazo.
Ubaba akayifaki indima yakhe entsha ngofuzo nje, ubaba nguyena ozivocavoca futhi ukhona ngaso sonke isikhathi, noma kunjalo, ezikhathini eziningi igazi kanye ne okunamathiselwe dlala indima ebalulekile ezinganeni. Kuza isikhathi empilweni lapho udinga ukuthola izimpendulo endaweni yakho kanye nasemndenini wakho wokuzalwa. Kufanele uqine ngokwengqondo futhi ube nemibono ecace bha yokwenza isinqumo esibaluleke kangaka kulokho okuzoba wushintsho olukhulu empilweni futhi.
Lapho abazali bethatha isinqumo sokulahla ingane yabo, kungaba ngenxa yezezimali, ukuntuleka kokuzinza ngokomzwelo noma ukukhula, ukwesaba, izinkinga zomndeni ..., inqubo yokuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo iqala, kokubili kubazali nasenganeni. Indodana ayinakho okunamathiselwe kukamama wegazi nobaba kusukela ekuzalweni. Lokho okunamathiselwe uthanda ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano obunempilo nobuzinzile nomphakathi, ukuzihlonipha nokuvikeleka.
Izingane ezilahliwe futhi esikhathini esizayo zidinga ukuthola izimpendulo nokwazana, babona ukuseshwa njengento eholela enkululekweni. "Ukwazi" kuzosho ukuqonda izimo eziningi, izenzo, izici noma izici zomuntu siqu. Umndeni wokutholwa kufanele uhambise inqubo futhi uhlanganyele uma ingane icela futhi ifisa. Ezikhathini eziningi, izingane, ngokwesaba ukulimaza abazali bazo bokutholwa, ziyathula, zikwenza lokho ngasese noma sezishonile.
Ekufuneni okwedlule
Kuza isikhathi empilweni lapho udinga ukuthola izimpendulo endaweni yakho kanye nasemndenini wakho wokuzalwa.
Akulula ukuthola izimpendulo, noma kunjalo, kuyilungelo labantu abamukelwe futhi bangazenzela ngokwabo inqobo nje uma bekucabanga. Izingane zokutholwa badinga ukwazi, bagcwalise izikhala futhi bavale isahluko esedlule isihambi. Izingane ezamukelwe zizokwazi ukuthuthuka ekukhuleni kobuntu bazo, lapho zicabanga futhi zamukela ukuthi ziyingxenye yemindeni emibili, noma kunjalo ngezindlela ezihlukile. Amaphesenti abafuna ukuthatha uhlangothi kuwo sekuvele kuyinkinga ye-protagonist.
- Lazi iqiniso, izimpendulo: Labo asebephume ekuhlanganyeleni komndeni ngendlela ehlanganayo bangena komunye, bezwa ukuthi kube nekhefu emlandweni wabo futhi badinga ukuthola izizathu, ukuqeda ukungabaza nokuqinisekisa ukuthi abanacala. Izingane eziningi zithwala isisindo secala futhi zinomuzwa wokuthi zehlulekile njengezingane, ukuthi zazingathandwa futhi zazingafanele lolo thando. Kuyinto elula ukukhuluma nokuchaza konke, ngendlela ehamba kancane neqondakalayo. Akekho ongakha impilo nekusasa kokungaziwa futhi mayelana ne-void ekhona.
- Finyelela ubunikazi: Abantu abasondelene nomntwana omncane, noma ngabe kungumndeni wemvelo noma wokutholwa, banikela ngamanani empilweni yabo yansuku zonke futhi benza ubuwena kanye neqiniso. Ingane idinga ukunqoba ukulahlwa yize ijabule futhi ithandwa emndenini wayo omusha. Uma kuvela komunye umndeni, idinga isikhathi ukuthola ukuzethemba nokunamathela kumalungu amasha.
- Ukwesaba ukulahlwa: Ingane eshiywe ngabazali bayo, baphila ngokwesaba kokuhlupheka futhi futhi bakholelwa ukuthi bakufanele. Kungokwabantu abanesibindi, abanelukuluku, abaphaphile nabaphilile abafuna ukwazi okwengeziwe futhi besabe ukuzwa usizi. Bobabili umzali ophilayo nengane kufanele baqonde izindima ezintsha, ukuma komzimba futhi babe nezingxoxo eziningi nokuzethemba ukukhuluma, baxoxe futhi bacele ngaphandle kokwesaba, ingcindezi noma ama-taboos.
- Ukuxhumana: Kunconywa ukwethembeka enganeni, ukuphendula ngokweqiniso, hhayi ukugwema ... Kuyafaneleka kubazali bemvelo ukuthi beka amagama nezinsiza zokunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwengane. Kufanele ifundwe futhi isebenze nezingane kusukela zisencane, noma ekwelashweni. Ebusheni, konke kuyinkimbinkimbi futhi ukufuna ubuwena bakho kuyinkinga enkulu futhi ebizayo. Lapho bebancane bafuna ukwazi futhi abekho kuleso sigaba esibaluleke kakhulu esigcwele amahla-ndinyuka nokuguquka kwamahomoni, ngakho-ke kungachazwa kubo kancane kancane, mababuze, babonisane, bathole, ngaphandle kokuzivikela kangako ...
- Isisekelo esivikelekile nezimpande: Lapho ingane izizwa iyingxenye yomndeni wayo wokutholwa sengathi yiyo yodwa futhi Uma wamukela ngaphandle kokucasuka futhi ngomoya ophansi, isimo sakho singaqhubeka impilo yakho ejabulisayo. Lapho ingane iqhubeka nesisindo esinzima ngemuva, iyohlala imile futhi ingakwazi ukuvula ikhasi, ihlale izilimaza futhi izibuza ukuthi kungani. Uma abazali bakho, umndeni wakho wokutholwa ungazibeki izithiyo, noma uzizwe wehlukene noma uhlangane, uma nihlangene ningashintsha, nihloniphane futhi nithandane kakhulu. Ezimweni ezinjalo ezinzima futhi ezinzima, kuyasiza ukuma uqine futhi uvikeleke. Ubunzima nesifiso sokulwa nolwazi kwenza konke kwenzeke.
Lapho ingane itholwa okwedlule idlula okusha umndeni. Ubhaka wengane ufika ulayishwe ukwesaba, imibuzo ..., kanye yonke into kufanele yabelwe amalungu azungezile. Ingane akufanele izizwe iyodwa, isengozini kakhulu futhi idinga ukuzinza ngokomzwelo futhi izwe ngokuqinile ukuvikelwa kwabazali bayo bokutholwa. Isidingo sokugcwalisa izimpendulo ezingenalutho sinamandla amakhulu ukuze kuguquke ngokwengqondo.