Ubulili ebusheni: hhayi ubudlelwane obunobungozi kuphela

Kulezi zinsuku uzobe ufundile emaphephandabeni, kumabhulogi noma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana mayelana umkhuba oyingozi phakathi kwentsha obizwa nge- "pier". Waziwa nangokuthi i-carousel, noma i-roulette yezocansi, ngumdlalo oqukethe okulandelayo: abesilisa abalele ngomhlane futhi babekwe esiyingini, amabhulukwe abo ezansi futhi emile, intombazane (noma amantombazane) asuka komunye aye komunye ehleli phansi ukuthola ukungena, okuhlala cishe imizuzwana engama-30. Kwenziwa ngaphandle kwekhondomu futhi basitshela ukuthi imfashini, kodwa ingabe kuliqiniso?

Angikutshelanga ukuthi njengakweminye imidlalo eminingi, kukhona owehlulwayo: lowo okhipha umjovo kuqala. Ongakusho! Uma ngikukholwa ngiyashaqeka kakhulu, uma ngingakukholwa, Ngizizwa futhi nginesidingo sokukhuluma ngobulili obusha, okudlula lokho thina bantu abadala esikucabangayo, futhi-ke nobungozi obuhambisana nakho ngokuya ngemikhuba ethile. Ngokusobala, icala lokuqala le "pier" lenzeke eMedellín, futhi lenziwa (phakathi kwabanye) yintombazane eneminyaka eyi-14 eyayikhulelwe, yatshela okwenzekile. Ngaphambi kokuqhubeka: ngalokho osekuyimfashiniKusesengozini enkulu ukuyikhuphula kuleso sigaba, angazi.

Intsha nezocansi.

Ngifuna ukukhuluma ngezinto eziningana, futhi ngithemba ukudlulisa kahle lokho engihlose ukukwenza. Njengoba wazi, isikhathi sobusha siyisikhathi sezinguquko eziningi kuwo wonke amazinga, futhi kungukushintshela ebudaleni, futhi amantombazane nabafana kumele bazakhe, bahlangane futhi bafunde ukuba yi-BE. Futhi kufanele babhekane nengcindezi yontanga, ukulilela ingane engasekho, kanye nokwenza okuhle ngabazali, akukho lutho. Kepha, Yeka isigaba esihle futhi esigcwele kangaka amava nobudlelwano! iqiniso? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umhlaba wabantu abadala kwesinye isikhathi uvame ukubheka ubusha njengobuphikisanayo, futhi ngenxa yalokho sihlose ukwahlulela futhi sibaqondise, esikhundleni sokuhamba nabo, kodwa leso esinye isifundo.

Ngokucishe, noma ngokungazi, sidlulisa ithonya elonakele lamasiko nokuziphatha, ukukhombisa ucansi njengongcolile, kungcono sikufihlele izingane noma sizitshele okulungile, ngakho-ke kuhamba kanjalo Ukuntuleka kwemvelo, ukwethembeka ... nasezikoleni kunesidingo semfundo yezocansi; Ngoba ukutshela izingane eziseSekondari ukuthi ikhondomu ivimbela ama-STD mfushane, futhi ukukhuluma nalabo abasePrayimari mayelana nokuzala, ngendlela esenza ngayo, ngeke kuzuze lokho okufanele sizenze: ukuthi baphila ubulili obumnandi nobunempilo ngasikhathi sinye.

I-pier, ama-hoaxes.

Kubukeka sengathi kunzima ukuqinisekisa ukuthi imfashini enjengalena yocansi iyenzeka, futhi isivele iku-2013, i-BBC kwabuzwa ukuthi ngabe (eColombia) "la bekungamacala angawodwa, noma inqubo ejwayelekile." Yize ngakolunye uhlangothi, kushiwo futhi ukuthi kukhona ividiyo ebhala esinye salezi zigameko okungenzeka zenzeka eMadrid, kepha lokho kuzoqinisekisa kuphela ukuthi kukhona labo abenza le carousel, hhayi ukuthi ikhiqizwa ngobuningi.

Inguquko kwezocansi noma ubudlelwano bokulahla?

Ngayithanda kakhulu Lesi sihloko itholakale kwi-Psychocorporeal Therapy, ekhuluma ngeminye yemiphumela yalolo guquko lwezocansi. Ngokuya ngeminyaka yethu yobudala njengomama noma obaba, siye saba nabazali ababefinyelele emshadweni ngaphandle kokuya ocansini, okwathi kamuva babengazi ukuthi bangaziphendula kanjani izimpendulo zezingane zabo, nokuthi batatazela lapho amantombazane eba yintsha. Ezinye zalezi zingane, ukukhokhela ukungabi bikho kwezimiso kanye nokuntuleka kwemfundo yezocansi, Babekhuluma ngocansi lapho sebekhulile, futhi lokho bakwenza ngokukubeka enkabeni yazo zonke izingxoxo, uze ukhathale. Futhi ngenkathi lokho kwenzeka, inguquko yezocansi yashintsha Ubudlelwano obuhlala njalo ngokocansi 'kwemakethe': ubudlelwano bokulahla, lapho izidingo zakho zifiphele futhi zinganakwa.

Ngiqonde, anginakho ukuhlakanipha: abangesabi ubunqunu, ingasaphathwa eyokuya ocansini, okungithusayo ukuqhanyelwa ngokweqile okuzungeza intsha, kanye nomqondo wezocansi ongahlobene nothando nemizwelo, ngoba ekugcineni, konke kuhlobene, noma kungumongo wobudlelwano obungalingani.

Ngamanye amagama, ake ucabange ukungcola esinakho ngabantu abadala ngale ndaba: ucansi lungcolile, ubulili bezingane ezisakhulayo buyakhathaza, futhi ngasikhathi sinye siya khona (lapho singanikeli) singavumeli "noma yini ihambe", futhi asenzi unakekele uma ngalokhu siphoqa omncane ukuthi aguqule ngokweqile.

Intsha nayo inelungelo lokuzwa ubulili bayo.

Uphenyo lwe I-Utrecht University, uphawula ukuthi kunobudlelwano besikhathi eside phakathi kokusetshenziswa kwemithombo yezocansi kanye nezimo zengqondo eziyekelelayo, kepha ngasikhathi sinye inhlangano ingalawulwa ngokulawulwa kwabazali futhi ukuxhumana komndeni, ukuthola umphumela wokuhlola. Ngezindlela zocansi sisho ukuxilongwa ngokocansi okujwayelekile, futhi ikakhulukazi izikhuthazi ezahlukahlukene ezingafanele. Isibonelo ukukhuluma ngocansi kufanelekile, ukukuthatha kalula akulona.

Enye yezinkinga okungahle kudalwe ukufihla ukuthi amantombazane nabafana bayahamba bayofuna ulwazi kwi-Intanethi, futhi empeleni bazokwenza njalo, ngoba abazali abasazona izibalo eziyizi-100%; Okunye futhi ukuthi umndeni usekhona, ulalela ngaphandle kokwahlulela, nokuthi bahambisana nokukhula. Kuyalulekwa ukukhuthaza ukwethembana nokukhulumisana okuvulelekile, hhayi ukuwuyeka umsebenzi njengabafundisi, ngoba nje bengasasicabangeli.

Njengoba ngisho, umuntu ngamunye uphila ubulili bakhe, futhi lokhu UBULILI buhumushela ekufuneni injabulo, ukuphatha ukwesaba, ubudlelwane obuseduze nomunye umuntu, ukuhlola izifiso, ukuhlonipha omunye… kufanele kube njalo. Akukhona nje ukuxoxisana ngokusetshenziswa kwekhondomu bese kuba nokuya ocansini, kubuye kuveze lokho umuntu akuthandayo, nokuzilalela. Futhi izinto eziningi, kunjalo.

Kukhona ingozi yokuthola ama-STD, wokukhulelwa okungafunwa ... futhi kunesidingo sokuxhumana.

Omncane kunabo bonke kufanele azazi lezi zingozi, futhi empeleni kulula ukukukhumbula ngezikhathi ezithile ezivela emndenini noma esikoleni, kodwa ngendlela esondelene nasothandweni esizizwela ngabo, hhayi njengesifundo sokukhumbula. Okwenzekayo ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi thina bantu abadala sigxila kakhulu ku-gonorrhea noma umabhebhana (Ngisikisela lokhu kufundwa ngama-STD ezingabanjwa zisebenzisa intwasahlobo), nge-HIV, futhi asazi ukuthi badingani.

Lokhu kushicilelwa kwe Ubufakazi Ezinganeni Ngiyayithanda (futhi ineminyaka embalwa kuphela ubudala), ngoba ithi ngaphezu kwezikhungo zokubonisana ngezindlela zokuvimbela inzalo, mhlawumbe kungaba lula ukuveza izindlela ukuze bakwazi ukuhlangana futhi babuze imibuzo, bashintshane ngokungabaza, ngaphandle kokuqondisa.

Okokugcina, masiqaphele ubungozi, kepha ungacabangi ukuthi abantu abasha bayiziphukuphuku. Kumele sikuthathe ngokungathi sína konke lokhu futhi sizibandakanye. Angazi noma "intwasahlobo" iyimfashini noma cha, ngiyasola ukuthi uma kwenzeka, kungenzeka ukuthi ingaphansi kwethonya lotshwala, futhi lokhu kunganikeza okuthunyelwe okungaphezu kokukodwa, ngoba ukudla okuhlukumezayo ebusheni, kuyakhathaza. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke Ngiyazi ukuthi akuzona zonke izidingo ezingokomzwelo nezokuxhumana ezihlangabezwayo izingane zethu ezinazo.

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