Ingane kufanele izizwe ikhululekile ukukhuluma ngalokho ekufunayo, uma isaba, ukungazethembi ..., futhi icele usizo.
Indaba yodlame wudaba olusithinta sonke. Kubalulekile ukusebenza nokufundisa izingane zisencane umuzwa wokuziphatha ngaphandle kokulimaza noma ngubani ngokwenyama noma ngamazwi. Sazise ngalolu suku lokungabi nodlame ukuthi singaluqwashisa kanjani izingane.
Ukungabi nodlame
Ngosuku lokukhumbula uGandhi, ubaba wokumiswa kokungabi nodlame. Isiqubulo esidlula ngalolu suku sifuna ukuthola ukuthula, ukuqonda nokuqeda izenzo zodlame ezibhekiswe kwabanye. Cha violencia liphikisana nazo zonke lezo zenzo zempi. Kunezinhlobo eziningi zodlame, ezocansi, ezomndeni, ezemfundo, ezengqondo noma ezocansi. Uma kusetshenziswa udlame, kusetshenziswa amandla futhi imizwa kanye nemizwa yalowo ohlukunyeziwe ayibhekwa.
Lapho izalwa ingane inezinkanuko zothando nenzondo noma ulaka. Sekuyisikhathi ukuthi ngosizo lwabathandekayo uzokwazi ukubona futhi ukhethe ukuthi uzokwenza kanjani. Abesilisa, abesifazane, izingane nezilwane bavezwa ukulimala ngokomzimba noma ngamazwi kwabanye. Lapho umonakalo ungenasisekelo futhi ungenhloso, kubangela ubuhlungu obukhulu nokuhlukumezeka kumuntu okunzima ukunqoba..
Ngokofuzo, akubona bonke abantu abanesimo esifanayo sodlame. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imvelo kanye nabantu abazungeze ingane kumele benze okuhle. Ukusiza ingane kufanele uyifundise izindinganiso nezinkambiso azenza ngaphakathi azenze i-motu yakho. Imvelo ibalulekile ukuze ingane ihlakule ngendlela enempilo nenenhlalo. Ukwazi ukuthi ungamhola kanjani ngothando, izincazelo futhi umnikeze amathuluzi awusizo, kuzomsindisa ezimweni ezivelayo.
Imvelo yengane
Isibonelo sabazali, umndeni futhi othisha bazokwazi ukugxilisa impilo yengane ezinhlosweni nasezinhlosweni eziyikhuthazayo. Uma ungasebenzi futhi wenza ngokuzibophezela, izingane zizogcina zikhethe imizila elula futhi eyingozi kakhulu. Ingane mhlawumbe izobhekana ne- ukwehluleka kwesikole nobunzima obuphathelene nabanye abantu. Kusukela ebuntwaneni bokuqala ingane kufanele ikhulise izindinganiso ezikhuthaza izenzo ezingezona ezinobudlova.
Umndeni uyiphuzu elisemqoka lokuthi ingane ikhombise isimilo esinolaka noma cha. Abazali abangabanaki, abajezise, noma abangabathandi izingane, bayizidalwa eziqeqeshayo ezingeke zithande ukukunikeza futhi futhi ziyoba nolaka nezwe. Imvelo lapho uhlala khona, abantu obabona nsuku zonke nendlela abenza ngayo, ukungondleki kahle, ukulimala kwengqondo ..., kuzoba nomthelela kulesi sici.
Ungayifundisa kanjani ingane ukuthi ingazenzi ngodlame
Abazali kufanele benze ngokuvumelana nokuhle futhi bafundise izindinganiso ingane ezenza ngaphakathi futhi izisebenzise "ngokuthanda kwayo"
Abazali kufanele, ekuqaleni, babe namakhono okubafaka ezinganeni zabo futhi ngaleyo ndlela uphumelele ukubafundisa ngesiyalo esihle. Kusobala ukuthi ingane ebonile futhi yabhekana nezenzo ezinobudlova ekhaya noma endaweni yayo izokwenza ngendlela efanayo futhi ibone kuyinto ejwayelekile. Ukwenza ingane yazi ngokungakhethi udlame:
- Abazali kufanele babe othisha bakho bokuqala futhi isikole sesibili: Bazobona kulaba bantu isibuko okufanele bazibuke kuso. Abazali kufanele balwele ukulandela indlela efanele yokuziphatha, bakhulume nenhlonipho nokubekezelela abanye, hhayi inzondo. Kumele bazi ukuthi bangafundisa kanjani ngokungabi nodlame.
- Abazali kumele babambe iqhaza ekufundiseni izingane zabo, ukhathazeke ngesimo sakho esingokomzwelo, sobukrelekrele nesengqondo. Uma ingane idinga usizo, kufanelekile ukuthi ilufune ngendlela efanele. Izingane zisheshe zibonise okungajwayelekile ezenzweni zazo lapho zingaphilile kahle.
- Ingane idinga ukwakhiwa, ukuvuselelwa, ukuvikelwa nokuthandwa. Abazali nabafundisi kumele babekezele kodwa bangapheli ezimfundisweni zabo.
- Ingane idinga ukuthuthuka kufayela le- indawo enokuthula nenokuthula, ngenqubo yabo kanye namashejuli.
- Khuluma ngokusobala nengane bese uphromotha inkhulumomphendvulwano: Chaza ukuthi abantu bahlupheka kanjani uma belimele, buza bese weluleka.
- Ingane kufanele izizwe ikhululekile ukukhuluma nganoma yini eyifunayo, uma wesaba, ukungazethembi ...
- Abazali kufanele bamkhombise amathuluzi, ulwazi…, Ukuze bazi ukuthi benze kanjani ezimweni ezahlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi ubungozi, nezibonelo empilweni yansuku zonke. Kulezi zimo ezingqubuzanayo, kufanele futhi bazi ukuthi bangalucela kanjani usizo uma bengazi ukuthi bazobhekana kanjani nazo noma besaba ukukwenza lokho.
- Ingane kufanele izizwe iphephile futhi isendaweni enethezekile nenenjabulo: Abazali abangaqondi, abathandani, noma abaphathani ngeke babekele izingane zabo isibonelo esifanele.
- Sebenzisa umdlalo ukuthuthukisa amakhono yezenhlalakahle.